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AJ1
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Hi there everyone! I was a member here a few years ago [diff user name, but can't remember what it was] and found a lot of support and help by being a member here.
My daughter is 8 and was diagnosed with Aspergers and ADHD 3 years ago. She takes Sertraline and Risperdal, both of which are helping immensely! Before she started the Sertraline about 3 weeks ago, things had still been pretty difficult. She has been taking Risperdal on and off for almost 3 years. The Risperdal helps, but after being on it for a while it helps less... but still, I have fallen into the trap a few times of thinking it wasn't helping much and she put on a lot of weight, only to find that off the Risperdal things got incredibly more difficult and miserable and explosive again!
At home she has been very explosive [and thanks to this site I have read and reread the Explosive child] and life has been very hard. At school she has an aide who is with her for a part of every lunch time... but that is another story and I don't want to make this too long. At school things have been difficult for her [socially] but she hasn't been explosive there, not hitting etc. Unfortunately things have been getting progressively worse at school.
Now I am coming to my point! I have tried approaching the school at various times over the years, only to be condescended to, hung up on, ignored etc. Thus my reluctance to try and approach them again now, especially as it is the end of the school year here in Australia. My daughter went to school yesterday after only 6 hours sleep. She has had a bit of trouble sleeping lately. I sent her to school with a note to let her teacher know that she had missed out on a lot of sleep over the weekend, and therefore school could be more challenging for her. Later in the morning I realised that she had not had her Risperdal the night before [and that explained why she couldn't sleep until midnight], I rang the school and left a message for her teacher.
When I picked her up in the afternoon she was very upset and had been sent to the principal for 1 thing, and put on time out by her teacher for another thing. Both things she claims not to have done. I know that she fibs, but I know she also tells the truth sometimes... so what to believe, what to think, what to do. Today she is refusing to go to school because she has to go back on time out. And of course she is deeply upset that I am unsure if she is telling the truth.
This time last year I tried to talk to the VP about similar things, and was hung up on. I am reluctant to try to talk to anyone there about what is going on since there are only 7 days left of school and it probably won't get me anywhere.
I guess the point of this post is that I am lost. I don't know what to believe, and I don't want my daughter to think she can stay home when things get tough, but I also know I can't make her go when she is like this. One of the incidents yesterday was that she thought a boy in her class had touched her on her "private place", actually she thinks he punched her between the legs. After discussion with the other children, the teacher and principal decided it was an accident and wrote to me in her communication book [which hardly ever comes home despite things like this happening constantly] that everyone was happy with the outcome. Not my daughter. She is still convinced the boy did deliberately punch her there. of course I want to believe her, but i know that her perception isn't always spot-on. She had to sit in the hallway outside the principal's office, and she says the principal yelled at her.
Anyway, not sure how coherent this post is... I don't imagine I am going to be able to get her to school at all before school breaks up for the year.
My daughter is 8 and was diagnosed with Aspergers and ADHD 3 years ago. She takes Sertraline and Risperdal, both of which are helping immensely! Before she started the Sertraline about 3 weeks ago, things had still been pretty difficult. She has been taking Risperdal on and off for almost 3 years. The Risperdal helps, but after being on it for a while it helps less... but still, I have fallen into the trap a few times of thinking it wasn't helping much and she put on a lot of weight, only to find that off the Risperdal things got incredibly more difficult and miserable and explosive again!
At home she has been very explosive [and thanks to this site I have read and reread the Explosive child] and life has been very hard. At school she has an aide who is with her for a part of every lunch time... but that is another story and I don't want to make this too long. At school things have been difficult for her [socially] but she hasn't been explosive there, not hitting etc. Unfortunately things have been getting progressively worse at school.
Now I am coming to my point! I have tried approaching the school at various times over the years, only to be condescended to, hung up on, ignored etc. Thus my reluctance to try and approach them again now, especially as it is the end of the school year here in Australia. My daughter went to school yesterday after only 6 hours sleep. She has had a bit of trouble sleeping lately. I sent her to school with a note to let her teacher know that she had missed out on a lot of sleep over the weekend, and therefore school could be more challenging for her. Later in the morning I realised that she had not had her Risperdal the night before [and that explained why she couldn't sleep until midnight], I rang the school and left a message for her teacher.
When I picked her up in the afternoon she was very upset and had been sent to the principal for 1 thing, and put on time out by her teacher for another thing. Both things she claims not to have done. I know that she fibs, but I know she also tells the truth sometimes... so what to believe, what to think, what to do. Today she is refusing to go to school because she has to go back on time out. And of course she is deeply upset that I am unsure if she is telling the truth.
This time last year I tried to talk to the VP about similar things, and was hung up on. I am reluctant to try to talk to anyone there about what is going on since there are only 7 days left of school and it probably won't get me anywhere.
I guess the point of this post is that I am lost. I don't know what to believe, and I don't want my daughter to think she can stay home when things get tough, but I also know I can't make her go when she is like this. One of the incidents yesterday was that she thought a boy in her class had touched her on her "private place", actually she thinks he punched her between the legs. After discussion with the other children, the teacher and principal decided it was an accident and wrote to me in her communication book [which hardly ever comes home despite things like this happening constantly] that everyone was happy with the outcome. Not my daughter. She is still convinced the boy did deliberately punch her there. of course I want to believe her, but i know that her perception isn't always spot-on. She had to sit in the hallway outside the principal's office, and she says the principal yelled at her.
Anyway, not sure how coherent this post is... I don't imagine I am going to be able to get her to school at all before school breaks up for the year.