I called difficult child last night and he was in the apartment downstairs from the one he lives in, cooking dinner with his sponsor and his sponsors sponsor, who lives in the apartment downstairs. He seems to be spending a lot of time with the two of them and I realized last night that he is all of a sudden in a different place in his life, and it's a good one. I'm hoping this post will give hope to the members here who really feel it will never happen. Yesterday difficult child was 5 months clean!! He is working full time, living in the soberhouse, paying his own rent and besides waiting for the paternity test to come back, there is no drama in his life right now. He's just living and he's doing it in a healthy way and he's happy!! We have gone from talking everyday to calling each other every few days just to say hi! He's not calling asking for help or money He's truly made a new life for himself. I know he doesn't really have much in common with the roommates in his apartment, so maybe someday he'll even move downstairs with these people he seems to be spending so much time with. I'm glad there are 3 other apartments he can go visit, all of them filled with recovering addicts I just wanted to post this because all of a sudden after talking to him last night I just realized I feel at peace with how he's doing right now. I don't ever want to let go of the one day at a time and progress not perfection, because I know things can change in the matter of seconds. But, for today this is where he is and it's such a good feeling because for a long time I never thought this is where he would be. I know I don't even have to ask this, but please keep him in all of your prayers that he continues on this path for a very very long time, if not forever!!!