Hi all, This is in reference to my youngest son (now age 21), whom I previously posted about when he was more of a difficult child. He's matured a lot since I started posting about him about 4 years ago, and is not fighting and getting in trouble any more. However, he's been very slow to launch, and quit his last job about 9 months ago. He was supposed to join the Army then, but backed out at the very last minute. He was literally in the hotel waiting to leave for basic training the next morning when he decided he couldn't do it. So, despite my daily nagging for him to get a job, he has essentially been happy to stay in his bedroom, smoke cigarettes, and emerge to get food or hang out with his friends occasionally. My husband and I had taken away almost everything but room and board, and he doesn't have a driver's license so doesn't drive our car. But he manages to get his friends to take him around and bums cigarettes off of them. It's like he was just lowering his living standards when we took things away. He would claim to apply for jobs, but would never follow up on them to actually get one. He'd say, "There literally aren't any jobs here!" which is ridiculous since we live in a major city and there are Help Wanted signs around every corner. The ray of hope is that he finally got a job! I'm telling you guys since I'm not ready to tell my "in person" friends yet. I'd rather not deal with any judgements right now, but wanted to share the good news. He's very excited about it, and has made a list of priorities for his future money, including getting his driver's license reinstated and saving up to rent an apartment. As always, guarded optimism!