Catwmn
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I don't even know where to begin with this....
I received a call today from Children's Protective Services. They wanted to interview my husband and I regarding abuse and neglect allegations that were filed with them. She also told me that she had already spoken to Aaron YESTERDAY at school!! Without me knowing anything about it!! His teacher didn't even tell me when I came to pick him up...!!!!!
We immediately rushed down to the caseworker's office and did our interviews.
The allegations in the intake report were this:
1. Aaron has been wetting his pants a lot lately according to the doctor who filed the report and this is indicative of possible sexual abuse.
2. Aaron had a long red "welt" on the side of his face and mom and dad did not do a good job explaining where it came from and she suspects possible physical abuse.
3. The family lives in a very rural area and are "isolated" and have no family support.
4. Allegedly we also shelter our children too much, because Aaron is not involved in extracurricular activities at school.
5. We are "intolerant" of Aaron's behavior issues due to the fact that we pressed her for a referral to a Psychiatrist, and she feels that we simply want to "drug him out".
I am completely FLOORED. This doctor had never laid eyes on us until January 2. And even then she only spent THIRTY MINUTES with us. I will now explain the above points...
1. Aaron started wetting his pants when he developed epilepsy. This has always been an issue but it has gotten better since he was taken off of the Depakote. I even TOLD her this...that it had gotten better and that our past neurologist had told us that it was more than likely caused by the Depakote as it is a side effect.
2. As far as the "welt" on Aaron's face goes....he had been sleeping for two hours in the car leaning on a seat belt. We told her that when she asked about it and she seemed to accept that as an answer...I NEVER DREAMED she would turn it into an abuse report.
3. As far as living in a RURAL area goes...we can't help that. We live in a very small town about 75 miles north of Houston. We travel a LONG way to go to TCH to see all of these specialists. We are NOT isolated. And we SHARE our 50 acres of land with Bart's parents for gosh sakes!! We HAVE family support!!!
4. How do they expect Aaron to be able to do extracurricular activities in school when he can barely function in school?? I just don't get this one...
5. You're D*&N right I'm intolerant of his current behavior problems. They didn't start until he was diagnosed with Epilepsy and placed on AEDs. I DO NOT want to drug him out. I want a Psychiatrist to give us some answers as to what is happening to our little boy.
So now here are some questions:
1. If your doctor did this to you would you ask for a new doctor? I am thinking I should get a new doctor but we are on medicaid and the list is LONG to wait...but at the same time I'm just not comfortable going back to this one....
2. Does anyone have any suggestions for any kind of letter I could write to this doctor regarding this??
I just feel so LOST right now....they are going to interview the other two boys next week and do a home visit to check out our house to see what type of surroundings we are raising the kids in. I feel so VIOLATED!!!
*sigh*
I could write more but I'm just too sad right now....THanks for any input all you wonderful mommies and daddies might have...
Cat
I received a call today from Children's Protective Services. They wanted to interview my husband and I regarding abuse and neglect allegations that were filed with them. She also told me that she had already spoken to Aaron YESTERDAY at school!! Without me knowing anything about it!! His teacher didn't even tell me when I came to pick him up...!!!!!
We immediately rushed down to the caseworker's office and did our interviews.
The allegations in the intake report were this:
1. Aaron has been wetting his pants a lot lately according to the doctor who filed the report and this is indicative of possible sexual abuse.
2. Aaron had a long red "welt" on the side of his face and mom and dad did not do a good job explaining where it came from and she suspects possible physical abuse.
3. The family lives in a very rural area and are "isolated" and have no family support.
4. Allegedly we also shelter our children too much, because Aaron is not involved in extracurricular activities at school.
5. We are "intolerant" of Aaron's behavior issues due to the fact that we pressed her for a referral to a Psychiatrist, and she feels that we simply want to "drug him out".
I am completely FLOORED. This doctor had never laid eyes on us until January 2. And even then she only spent THIRTY MINUTES with us. I will now explain the above points...
1. Aaron started wetting his pants when he developed epilepsy. This has always been an issue but it has gotten better since he was taken off of the Depakote. I even TOLD her this...that it had gotten better and that our past neurologist had told us that it was more than likely caused by the Depakote as it is a side effect.
2. As far as the "welt" on Aaron's face goes....he had been sleeping for two hours in the car leaning on a seat belt. We told her that when she asked about it and she seemed to accept that as an answer...I NEVER DREAMED she would turn it into an abuse report.
3. As far as living in a RURAL area goes...we can't help that. We live in a very small town about 75 miles north of Houston. We travel a LONG way to go to TCH to see all of these specialists. We are NOT isolated. And we SHARE our 50 acres of land with Bart's parents for gosh sakes!! We HAVE family support!!!
4. How do they expect Aaron to be able to do extracurricular activities in school when he can barely function in school?? I just don't get this one...
5. You're D*&N right I'm intolerant of his current behavior problems. They didn't start until he was diagnosed with Epilepsy and placed on AEDs. I DO NOT want to drug him out. I want a Psychiatrist to give us some answers as to what is happening to our little boy.
So now here are some questions:
1. If your doctor did this to you would you ask for a new doctor? I am thinking I should get a new doctor but we are on medicaid and the list is LONG to wait...but at the same time I'm just not comfortable going back to this one....
2. Does anyone have any suggestions for any kind of letter I could write to this doctor regarding this??
I just feel so LOST right now....they are going to interview the other two boys next week and do a home visit to check out our house to see what type of surroundings we are raising the kids in. I feel so VIOLATED!!!
*sigh*
I could write more but I'm just too sad right now....THanks for any input all you wonderful mommies and daddies might have...
Cat