Thanks for your insights. Major was diagnosed BiPolar (BP) at 5 y/o, this psychiatrist doesn't say BiPolar (BP), she will say anxiety and mood disorder but we are treating with BiPolar (BP) medications. They have helped, leaving the anxiety more apparent. They all love to say he is ADHD, but the ADHD symptoms really ebb and flow and he is missing some rather common ones like losing things, being consistant in high energy, talkativeness, even his focus and attention aren't consistant.
His overreactions to negative emotions have been my biggest concern but that has been improving. They will label him ODD because he has refused to do schoolwork for the teachers but he gives me less arguements/backtalk then most of my other kids and I don't think ODD is a fair label.
He does have sleep troubles, occasional rages usually lasting 10-20 minutes with aggression to property, overwhelming over reactions to fear...always shows as anger, competition,anger, and frustration.
At times he is slightly more active/talkative, at times he can get along with his sister, at times he can be very irritable (always is to some degree). He use to get very down on himself and say he didn't have friends when he did, that no body loved him, ect., that hasn't been a problem since the lamictal.
When he was very young the whole problem started with 2-3 days when he was disobediant and undeterred with punishment, then things would be good for awhile, then repeat. Eventually the bad times increased til they took over. That was when I first took him to a psychiatrist.
I remember commenting to a pt from Early Intervention that he appeared to have a little of alot of things going on. Maybe that is the case. He did suffer from abuse as an infant, was drug/alcohol exposed, had minor attatchment problems, fine motor trouble. He developed on time, no speech issues, maybe minor eye contact problems-usually noticable if I am trying to scold him. Has alot of difficulty in school but no known Learning Disability (LD)'s.
Right now anxiety is his biggest problem, so, at least psychiatrist sees it. I have been wondering if there might be some spectrum like part to him but I don't thing he shows enough to qualify for the diagnosis?? I don't see Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) at all, but who knows, he always keeps me guessing. Anyway, thanks for the replies, it helps to hear other input alot.