A young relative of mine and her husband have been waiting several years to adopt a baby. Finally they were matched with a mom and they were called this week as she was ready to deliver. My relative was in the delivery room as the baby (a boy) was born. They took him with them and spent the day with "their" new baby. Suddenly the baby's father showed up and refused to sign the papers. The birth mom felt unable to raise a baby but the alternative was to put him in foster care as the dad was definitely not capable. Birth mom was raised in foster care and wanted no part of that for her baby so she took him. Now my relatives have lost a baby, the birth mom has had her life completely changed against her will, the baby will be raised in a one parent home (OK, I was a single mother, but still...)with a lot less advantages. All of this so the sperm donor can show his power. They could have fought this in court but were told they had no chance of winning. And we wonder why girls who find themselves unexpectedly pregnant choose abortion over adoption.