We have an adult son who steals and lies. The lies started in college. He went away to school and never attended class. He promised to go the next semester and didn't go. My husband moved him into an apartment the following year and he promised to attend community college. He didn't go. He came back home, got a job, but stopped going to work. There were signs that he wasn't going to work, I showed up and his employer said he quit two weeks prior. He joined the army and we thought he was on the right track. He earned commendations and was deployed in Iraq. He was stationed in Europe and married a local girl. After deployment he told her he didn't love her and left the country for his new assignment. He took the car her parents purchased from the US Army base. He sold the car and never paid her parents back. He bought a car while on his new assignment, defaulted on the loan. He bought a motorcycle, defaulted on that loan. Married girl #2 and moved back to the states. He left the army and was to attend school. He collected the housing for the GI bill but hasn't completed school. He owes over 40K to the government for collecting the housing allowance and payment for school that he didn't complete. He was accepted in a contractor apprentice program for electricians, he quit the program. My husband took out a loan so he and wife #2 could have a car (Wife #2 left after 3 months in the states). He doesn't pay the car payment, doesn't pay his cell phone, which is on our account. He racked up almost 3K in parking tickets, which we paid since the car is in my husband's name. He has given us 300 here and there. He stayed at our home to house sit the dogs and forged a check for 100.00. He stole my iPad which I found in his belongings. He stole our change jar and cashed out the money. He lies - says he's working when he's not. He lied for months about school and the apprentice program. He only tells the truth when he's caught and forced to. He hasn't paid his rent for three months and is being evicted. My husband told him he can live at home until he gets on his feet. I don't feel comfortable with my son in my home. Fortunately, I work from home and I'm here most of the time. We have two other children who are thriving, loving, and responsible adults. They call and come home to visit and enjoy being around my husband and I. I'm at a loss. My husband and I tried everything, but I am tired of being lied to. We have done way more than any other parent would or is capable of doing. When he visits, we give him food. We buy dog food for his dog. He doesn't have friends and he always has a girlfriend. He doesn't communicate with any family members other than his immediate family. I believe my son is a sociopath, he has no feelings or remorse for the stealing and lies throughout the years. He doesn't care about others. His only actions are to benefit himself at the expense of others. Now that he's moving in, I need to be on guard to watch his every move and I'm concerned he'll take my mail and open credit cards. I know my husband and I have given more chances and perhaps have enabled him. Should I cut off ties until he can prove that he is trustworthy and can take care of himself?