humbleyourheart
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Last night I was on the phone and my son (8) was very patient holding something behind his back with a big smile on his face. I could tell he was excited to show me something and was being so good to wait until I finished on the phone. When I did, he pulled his school paper out from behind his back and said "I passed my times test." I said "Oh, you had a test." to which he blew up. "It wasn't a test wasn't a test. Why'd you says test. You don't understand". So I calmy try to explain that he said test so I thought that's what he meant and what was it. He was crying and screaming then crumbled up his paper and threw it at me. For that I told him he had a time out because we don't throw things at Mommy and Daddy. After a tantrum and threatening to take his CD player away if he did not serve his time out he finally went. But all the while there he is yelling that No one cares about him, He wishes he were never born, Why did I make him ruin his best paper (its always my fault) and that he just wanted out of this family and he wanted to be a hobo. These are the kinds of blow ups we are having. Over me saying "test" and in his mind it wasn't a test. After his time out and he was calm I explained to him what happened and how he could have handled it differently. I try to do this after every blow up, but we are still having blow ups over these trivial things. Any thoughts or advice? Does anyone deal with this?
Donna
Donna