Hi. I'm actually here seeking some sort of advice. I am terrified of my nearly 3 year old. I am a stay at home mom and am actually scared to take my son anywhere. My son beats me almost daily - scratching, hitting, kicking, throwing objects at me, etc. I've often had bruises, gashes, etc. that I have him to thank for. I love him dearly, but I'm scared of him. He's constantly ignoring my instructions, doing exactly the opposite of what I ask and then laughing about it, throwing the most violent tantrums I've ever seen, and being physically abusive toward my husband's dog. The hardest part, though, is the lack of support I'm getting from my husband. Whenever I try to bring it up, I am told that it doesn't happen when he's here so it must be me doing something wrong. My mother, my friends, and the moms in his playgroup have all seen that I have tried nearly everything to manage his behavior and nothing has been working. The only thing I haven't tried is what my husband does, and only because I am firmly set against repetitive spanking. husband spanks for almost any misbehavior and expects me to do the same. I'm afraid it's only making our son worse. With a history of depression (me) and bi-polar (both of my sisters and my grandfather) in my family, I'm terrified of what could be going on with my son. I want it caught early and after reading up on things I'm beginning to think that it may be ODD. Can anyone with experience with ODD tell me if they think I might be on the right path? If I can find a way to present it to husband, maybe I can get him to allow me to take our son to a therapist. Please help!