PlainJane
Every dog has his day....
difficult child is in the summer program at the public school for preschool, and in September will start kindergarten. He is diagnosed high function autism, but really is really and Aspie (the doctor's say there's no point in changing the diagnoses, that high functioning autism covers Aspergers..) He also seems to have anxiety issues/ compulsions. He is not on medications right now, as with a little tlc he functions very well, all things considered. He is actually very bright, he was tested for this program, but socially/ behavoirally he is really really in need of special care.
His teacher for peschool (public school program which he qualifies for because of social delays) was excellent. He never had any issues there.
Now the one teacher he has (thankfully for only 2 more weeks) sucks. Sorry, but she just sucks. Point blank. He keeps getting notes home about his "bossy attitude" towards other children, and how he doesn't worry about himself. Today he got a note home about correcting others. When I talked to difficult child he explained that the other kids were not "doing it right" (putting their book bags away) and he didn't understand why he got in trouble. I mean this is OBVIOUS stuff with Aspie kids, isn't is?? They are hell bent on rule following and doing things correctly, and I get that the teacher cannot ignore his behavior because of it, but I don't need notes daily pointing out behavior that is part of his diagnoses...
So I called her today and told her that I know he is in a group of kids that some of them just have language delays, but M has Asperger's and this is part of it. She clarified that she didn't like him talking back, her example was when she told him to "worry about himself" (when referring to bossing others around) he replied "I AM worrying about myself"...and when she told him not to argue he answered "I'm NOT arguing"...Her biggest concern was that he not be fresh to her, was HIS TONE...so needless to say when she put him in time out for it, it set him off, and he just became more verbally aggressive ...
I just told her that his life has been an endless shuffle to therapists and we realize his tone may not be what she likes, but to listen to the words, as his communication has ALWAYS been an issue. He doesn't always pick up on voice tone and he doesn't always use appropriate tone...often he is really loud! At this point if he is NOT being physically abusive, or physically innapproriate (He isn't one to give others their personal space...) and if his WORDS AREN'T rude (i.e. name calling) than she needs to back off. I said it way more professionally than that though!
Am I wrong?? I mean this is a kid who has come leaps and bounds and she mad out how loud he talks or his tone. I told her she needs to verbally example to him how to say something, that he needs to HEAR it said the right way. You can just tell him, "don't use that tone", because he will have no idea what you are talking about.
Oh and she also said she wants to "nip this in the bud" referring to his "attitude" before kindergarten...
Am I wrong? I really want to smack this woman
His teacher for peschool (public school program which he qualifies for because of social delays) was excellent. He never had any issues there.
Now the one teacher he has (thankfully for only 2 more weeks) sucks. Sorry, but she just sucks. Point blank. He keeps getting notes home about his "bossy attitude" towards other children, and how he doesn't worry about himself. Today he got a note home about correcting others. When I talked to difficult child he explained that the other kids were not "doing it right" (putting their book bags away) and he didn't understand why he got in trouble. I mean this is OBVIOUS stuff with Aspie kids, isn't is?? They are hell bent on rule following and doing things correctly, and I get that the teacher cannot ignore his behavior because of it, but I don't need notes daily pointing out behavior that is part of his diagnoses...
So I called her today and told her that I know he is in a group of kids that some of them just have language delays, but M has Asperger's and this is part of it. She clarified that she didn't like him talking back, her example was when she told him to "worry about himself" (when referring to bossing others around) he replied "I AM worrying about myself"...and when she told him not to argue he answered "I'm NOT arguing"...Her biggest concern was that he not be fresh to her, was HIS TONE...so needless to say when she put him in time out for it, it set him off, and he just became more verbally aggressive ...
I just told her that his life has been an endless shuffle to therapists and we realize his tone may not be what she likes, but to listen to the words, as his communication has ALWAYS been an issue. He doesn't always pick up on voice tone and he doesn't always use appropriate tone...often he is really loud! At this point if he is NOT being physically abusive, or physically innapproriate (He isn't one to give others their personal space...) and if his WORDS AREN'T rude (i.e. name calling) than she needs to back off. I said it way more professionally than that though!
Am I wrong?? I mean this is a kid who has come leaps and bounds and she mad out how loud he talks or his tone. I told her she needs to verbally example to him how to say something, that he needs to HEAR it said the right way. You can just tell him, "don't use that tone", because he will have no idea what you are talking about.
Oh and she also said she wants to "nip this in the bud" referring to his "attitude" before kindergarten...
Am I wrong? I really want to smack this woman
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