Hey all! I haven't written in a very long time. So much has been going on, and I wish I had walked through some of this fire with you guys to help me along the way- even if just to tell me that it's OK. Brief recap: Son (24) is the child that makes me absolutely weep in frustration, in anger, etc. He's a weed smoker, ADHD, ODD, obstinate, argumentative, anger control issues, etc young man. He has a baby boy who just turned 2. He and the mother of the boy go back and forth with each other in a relationship I can only describe as highly dysfunctional in every single way. They have an open CPS case. I knew this was coming at some point- and it has. She actually called in on him during one of their 'breakup' periods. He currently is only allowed to be around his baby supervised. He's very resentful of this, and cannot realize that it is HIS OWN ACTIONS that created this situation in the first place. Now another call has been made, by my daughter who witnessed an incident on Saturday that ate her up until she told me on Sunday. She called the worker on Monday and they took the info and also requested she make a report via the hotline. Tuesday they went to the house- and he and the girlfriend (who are, no surprise, back together- codependent- he needs a place to stay and she 'needs' a man) are like Bonnie and Clyde. Furious. When I asked my son if he did what is alleged, he actually was angry that I asked and started making excuses about how it wasn't 'that bad'. SON YOU HAVE AN OPEN CASE! HOW COULD YOU BE SO DAMN DUMB TO DO THAT? Again, without any self reflection and ownership of his actions. So, we've (my daughter and I- who up to now provide care for him four nights a week while his mama works) been told by Bonnie and Clyde that we can't see the baby. Well, CPS doesn't really see it that way as we are 'approved' supervisors and caregivers, but ok. Worker called me yesterday. I'm just at a loss how he absolutely refuses to do better. And instead of understanding that SOMEONE has to look out for his son, he starts in about 'well, when I was 10 you....." and "you don't care about me" and "I can't believe my own family is turning on me like this" and "maybe if you had been a better MOTHER...." and on and on and on. He truly believes that I want him to 'fail' at life. I want nothing MORE than for him to do well. For himself, and most importantly for the sake of his son. I ADORE that baby. And I can tell the difference in how the baby responds to my son. And it just breaks my heart. I'm frustrated that she continues to take him back and is actually willing to put the custody of her own son at risk so she can be 'with her man'. Who brings nothing but drama and chaos to her life and the lives of her kids. I'm venting but this is so frustrating.