difficult child was up earlier than I expected this morning. He was doing very well and as we made plans to go to Rock and Bowl he asked if his friend A could come with. They bowl together in the Monday after school youth league. They were also on the same baseball team last year - I will see if we can request they be together again this year.
I made arrangements to pick up A. Once at the alley, the boys settled in and ordered lunch. difficult child had below average on all games with the last one being "88" (average is 109 since he has new ball). He was getting more and more ornery as the games went on. Finding every excuse under the sun why he wasn't doing as well as normal. His shoe slips, the ball slipped out of his hands, he saw a flash of light on the wall (during Rock and Bowl the lights are turned off and disco lights are flashing), I was yelling at him (definetly NOT! I thought and told him that he was doing well. It is normal to have not so good bowling days. It was no big deal, he was relaxed and having fun.) I get so tired of these whines - They are ten times worse when they are being done over something that he should be enjoying. Atleast his whines didn't compare himself with A. I think it was bothering him though because the two boys are neck to neck in league and expect to stay up with each other. difficult child was just too far behind all the games today. Oh well, such is life - it is just a game!
On the way home, difficult child complained that he was suppose to get 120's. Umm, I don't think so. He will be there someday but not as every game or even every other game at this point. A gave him a pep talk about just doing your best (He by the way had great games - I wrote the scores down for him to show him mom and dad).
A came home with difficult child to play for awhile. They went outside for a short time but it is so wet outside, not many places to play without A having boots. They mostly played Rock Band and Guitar Hero.
About 1/2 hour ago, difficult child came to me. His fears have been rising today. He said he wasn't feeling well. I asked if I should take A home so difficult child could rest. He said "yes". So, we just took A home after making sure his parents were home. (He is also a difficult child and asked me "what if they are not home?" "Then you come back with me.")
After we dropped A off, difficult child stated that this came on so fast. He thinks he is having little mini strokes that are building up to a big one. difficult child is now in is room supposebly trying to take a nap. I told him the psychiatrist will most likely give him some medications so he is not so afraid all the time.
I made arrangements to pick up A. Once at the alley, the boys settled in and ordered lunch. difficult child had below average on all games with the last one being "88" (average is 109 since he has new ball). He was getting more and more ornery as the games went on. Finding every excuse under the sun why he wasn't doing as well as normal. His shoe slips, the ball slipped out of his hands, he saw a flash of light on the wall (during Rock and Bowl the lights are turned off and disco lights are flashing), I was yelling at him (definetly NOT! I thought and told him that he was doing well. It is normal to have not so good bowling days. It was no big deal, he was relaxed and having fun.) I get so tired of these whines - They are ten times worse when they are being done over something that he should be enjoying. Atleast his whines didn't compare himself with A. I think it was bothering him though because the two boys are neck to neck in league and expect to stay up with each other. difficult child was just too far behind all the games today. Oh well, such is life - it is just a game!
On the way home, difficult child complained that he was suppose to get 120's. Umm, I don't think so. He will be there someday but not as every game or even every other game at this point. A gave him a pep talk about just doing your best (He by the way had great games - I wrote the scores down for him to show him mom and dad).
A came home with difficult child to play for awhile. They went outside for a short time but it is so wet outside, not many places to play without A having boots. They mostly played Rock Band and Guitar Hero.
About 1/2 hour ago, difficult child came to me. His fears have been rising today. He said he wasn't feeling well. I asked if I should take A home so difficult child could rest. He said "yes". So, we just took A home after making sure his parents were home. (He is also a difficult child and asked me "what if they are not home?" "Then you come back with me.")
After we dropped A off, difficult child stated that this came on so fast. He thinks he is having little mini strokes that are building up to a big one. difficult child is now in is room supposebly trying to take a nap. I told him the psychiatrist will most likely give him some medications so he is not so afraid all the time.