Difficult Child is now 36yo. Some of you who have been around awhile may remember his dad and I (finally) stopped enabling about the time I found this wonderful forum. A year or so later, my mom started enabling, despite knowing quite a bit about what Difficult Child's dad and I and siblings had been through. Difficult Child has stolen and lied to her several times thoughout the last couple years. My dad has wanted to send Difficult Child on his way, but my mom has refused. She knew she could get through to him and turn his life around. She believed all the horror stories he told her. NO WONDER he was so messed up, right? Turns out his dad and I were drunk and high every night while he was growing up. (Who knew???) A couple weeks ago, my mom discovered Difficult Child had stolen thousands of $$ of antiques from their home. He has also taken their mini van. The local police say there is nothing they can do about the vehicle, as Difficult Child had permisson to drive it. A high school friend of Difficult Child's, who is an attorney, sent my mom an email saying that two friends would return the vehicle (never happened) and that Difficult Child asked him to tell them that he is "outa here". We will have lunch with my parents on Thanksgiving and there will probably be more details forthcoming, although, i hope to hear nothing more. My dad keeps saying, "You warned us. This is playing out just like you said it would." My mom is more like, "I had to try. I could never live with myself otherwise." I will not bring it up, but she is saying this after my nuclear family has suffered twenty years of Difficult Child's abuse and disrespect. From time to time, I offer evidence here about how continued enabling does not help. Just another public service announcement.