4sumrzn
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It's the 8th year of baseball for easy child & I want to see the boy play when I am able to go!!!!! difficult child has ALWAYS been the main reason I can't attend sports events with easy child. The past 4 years he played for the same team.....so, everyone pretty much had a clue what was going on with difficult child over those years. Heck, they even begged me to come & offered to entertain difficult child so I could watch (the best that they could....she's quite the handful). husband was coaching then, so I really didn't have extra help during games. Anyway, that worked "some" over the past 4 years...I got to see a few games (could hardly EVER go before that)....but, now easy child is on a new team. I sent out a letter at the beginning of the season "explaining" (short version) a bit about our family situation with difficult child & how we try our hardest to attend as a family, but "things" will come up . I didn't go into detail about her off the wall words & conversations (mainly with herself or even the trashcan for that matter). I just let them know she has disabilities & some things may happen that are not "normal" to them, mainly their children. I also explained that I would like them to let their children know....explain it to them also, especially if they witness a uncomfortable moment. So far when difficult child has attended, nothing too major has happened. Heck, I even wonder if some of them even read the daggon memo....I've been asked some things they should just "get" from what I've informed them of & STILL don't because she looks "normal". I'll stop on that.
I'm to the past couple of games. She has ALWAYS been sensitive to noise. We know that. But, she has been SO much better if she is prepared for it. Example.....fire drills at school. They remind her every 5 minutes on those days. Thunder.....we make sure the TV/radio/fan is up to "help". The games....I've tried everything. We've been working on baseball since she was a baby. The latest was one of my first tricks, brought out the headphones. It's NOT WORKING! If easy child is up to bat, she's freaking out screaming, yelling & crying. He makes a good play & his name is yelled.....there she goes again! Now, she's even yelling at everyone to leave her alone..stop talking to me.....zip it...be quiet. It's really bad when her brother is involved in a play, but bad enough when anyone else on the team is being cheered for. We've tried sitting way out by ourselves....she can't stand it, wants to be with everyone else. Food works for the calmer portions of the game, quite well actually!LOL! It's the emotions over her brother & the loud noise. Anything suggestions?
by the way....the two of them can't even sit at the table together, but she screams for him like he's being hurt during the game (not too sure if she really grasps "hurt" though...just sounds that way). And, she's ALWAYS cried when the game is finished.....win or lose....she freaks out wanting to hug her brother!
Any insite? Thanks for listening. I just want to watch my son play ball. I will never have a babysitter. easy child gets a bit bent over her "noise & actions" during games, but wants me there. What to do....what to do?
PS....I got a bit grumpy with difficult child after easy child hit a homerun today. I couldn't help it. I WANT to see him play & WANT to cheer him on, but have to deal with THIS!?
OK, I'm done.....sorry
I'm to the past couple of games. She has ALWAYS been sensitive to noise. We know that. But, she has been SO much better if she is prepared for it. Example.....fire drills at school. They remind her every 5 minutes on those days. Thunder.....we make sure the TV/radio/fan is up to "help". The games....I've tried everything. We've been working on baseball since she was a baby. The latest was one of my first tricks, brought out the headphones. It's NOT WORKING! If easy child is up to bat, she's freaking out screaming, yelling & crying. He makes a good play & his name is yelled.....there she goes again! Now, she's even yelling at everyone to leave her alone..stop talking to me.....zip it...be quiet. It's really bad when her brother is involved in a play, but bad enough when anyone else on the team is being cheered for. We've tried sitting way out by ourselves....she can't stand it, wants to be with everyone else. Food works for the calmer portions of the game, quite well actually!LOL! It's the emotions over her brother & the loud noise. Anything suggestions?
by the way....the two of them can't even sit at the table together, but she screams for him like he's being hurt during the game (not too sure if she really grasps "hurt" though...just sounds that way). And, she's ALWAYS cried when the game is finished.....win or lose....she freaks out wanting to hug her brother!
Any insite? Thanks for listening. I just want to watch my son play ball. I will never have a babysitter. easy child gets a bit bent over her "noise & actions" during games, but wants me there. What to do....what to do?
PS....I got a bit grumpy with difficult child after easy child hit a homerun today. I couldn't help it. I WANT to see him play & WANT to cheer him on, but have to deal with THIS!?
OK, I'm done.....sorry