BusynMember
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So lately, after not thinking about Goneboy for years, I have had him on the brain again. Maybe I psychically knew he was about to break my ex's heart, so here goes the story.
Ex always favored Goneboy over Bart and Princess, stating pride in his work success and how Goneboy never ever asks him for money. This in spite of the fact that Goneboy also doesnt see my ex much and never includes him for holidays or helps him out.
I always figured Goneboy allowed ex a limited role in his life because Goneboy is very money hungry and wants to be in ex's will. Ex has an illness he has had since age 27 and it is quite serious. He has outlived all expectations. And he has lots of money.
Today ex asked Princess to please come over and, like she always does, she did. Ex sat her down, quite distraught and conflicted, and blurted to her that Goneboy had called a few weeks ago....to ask for $100,000 so that he could buy land for a new home!
He did not say "loan."
Goneboy has a big house with an underground pool in a wealthy Chicago suburb. He doesnt need a new home. He just wants one. He said that his wife's parents are also handing them $100,000. Her parents are in their nineties and not that wealthy and have other kids. Princess said she doubted they were giving them anything. I dont know for sure, but think Goneboy made that up.
Back at his house with Princess, ex seemed very upset by the request and Princess was outraged. She said something like "you may help me and Bart when we are in need of it, but $100,000??? Goneboy still has his house, right? He doesnt NEED another one. His house didnt burn down, right? He isnt homeless, right?"
She went home fuming and called me to vent.
Ex is very weak, for lack of a better word. He can have trouble saying no. Princess and I did not know if he would do the $100,000 gift or not. Fortunately, ex values his own brother's opinion above his own. His brother worked very hard and was very rich even before he inherited from their mother. Brother has helped his kids when they were in need, but he was furious at Goneboy. "Absolutely not!!! He never should have asked you! Thats a lot of nerve!"
So ex called Princess and firmly stated he would never do it. And he probably wont. His brother has extreme influence over him and, frankly, his brother is kind, smart, and concerned for ex's welfare.
Ex's last words on that money gift subject to Goneboy were "let me think about it."
Since Goneboy has talked to ex about the money, Goneboy hasnt called back. Maybe he is waiting, hoping. Maybe he is punishing. He is good at the latter.
I am flabbergasted. I never saw this coming. I thought Goneboy would just quietly wait for ex to die, then collect his third of the inheritance. Ex has him as executor...Gawd.
Ex is always very defensive and protective of Goneboy. I am sure he is confused and angry and very disappointed in his greedy request. He recognizes that this was not asked of him out of hardship.
I am appalled. Even on my worst day (and I had some) it never even floated through my.mind to ask anyone for that much money. Not even in a daydream.
I always thought Goneboy was a shell of a person who needed status symbols to feel important. Maybe I am right.
Ex will likely never say to Bart or Princess again "why cant you be like Goneboy and never ask for money!"
Still wrapping my head around this.
Ex always favored Goneboy over Bart and Princess, stating pride in his work success and how Goneboy never ever asks him for money. This in spite of the fact that Goneboy also doesnt see my ex much and never includes him for holidays or helps him out.
I always figured Goneboy allowed ex a limited role in his life because Goneboy is very money hungry and wants to be in ex's will. Ex has an illness he has had since age 27 and it is quite serious. He has outlived all expectations. And he has lots of money.
Today ex asked Princess to please come over and, like she always does, she did. Ex sat her down, quite distraught and conflicted, and blurted to her that Goneboy had called a few weeks ago....to ask for $100,000 so that he could buy land for a new home!
He did not say "loan."
Goneboy has a big house with an underground pool in a wealthy Chicago suburb. He doesnt need a new home. He just wants one. He said that his wife's parents are also handing them $100,000. Her parents are in their nineties and not that wealthy and have other kids. Princess said she doubted they were giving them anything. I dont know for sure, but think Goneboy made that up.
Back at his house with Princess, ex seemed very upset by the request and Princess was outraged. She said something like "you may help me and Bart when we are in need of it, but $100,000??? Goneboy still has his house, right? He doesnt NEED another one. His house didnt burn down, right? He isnt homeless, right?"
She went home fuming and called me to vent.
Ex is very weak, for lack of a better word. He can have trouble saying no. Princess and I did not know if he would do the $100,000 gift or not. Fortunately, ex values his own brother's opinion above his own. His brother worked very hard and was very rich even before he inherited from their mother. Brother has helped his kids when they were in need, but he was furious at Goneboy. "Absolutely not!!! He never should have asked you! Thats a lot of nerve!"
So ex called Princess and firmly stated he would never do it. And he probably wont. His brother has extreme influence over him and, frankly, his brother is kind, smart, and concerned for ex's welfare.
Ex's last words on that money gift subject to Goneboy were "let me think about it."
Since Goneboy has talked to ex about the money, Goneboy hasnt called back. Maybe he is waiting, hoping. Maybe he is punishing. He is good at the latter.
I am flabbergasted. I never saw this coming. I thought Goneboy would just quietly wait for ex to die, then collect his third of the inheritance. Ex has him as executor...Gawd.
Ex is always very defensive and protective of Goneboy. I am sure he is confused and angry and very disappointed in his greedy request. He recognizes that this was not asked of him out of hardship.
I am appalled. Even on my worst day (and I had some) it never even floated through my.mind to ask anyone for that much money. Not even in a daydream.
I always thought Goneboy was a shell of a person who needed status symbols to feel important. Maybe I am right.
Ex will likely never say to Bart or Princess again "why cant you be like Goneboy and never ask for money!"
Still wrapping my head around this.
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