My 16 yo difficult child and I are both strong-willed. At our session on Saturday, the family therapist told me that we need to avoid power struggles. How do we do that?
I mean, I know about the notion of giving her two choices, so she will feel that she has some control, but is there any other technique? (I think "control" is a big issue her, because she is adopted and initially abandoned by her birthmother, and so it is hard for her to allow herself to be dependent and to trust anyone becauser she does not feel secure in relationships. Thus, self-reliance and autonomy might be a coping mechanism for her.)
I mean, I know about the notion of giving her two choices, so she will feel that she has some control, but is there any other technique? (I think "control" is a big issue her, because she is adopted and initially abandoned by her birthmother, and so it is hard for her to allow herself to be dependent and to trust anyone becauser she does not feel secure in relationships. Thus, self-reliance and autonomy might be a coping mechanism for her.)