So Bart's ex, who I am sure must have extreme borderline because she makes him seem very stable, wants to go back for mediation and he got a letter about it. Not sure what it's about but ex has been obsessing over Junior wearing his glasses. The doctor wrote down he has to wear his glasses ALL THE TIME. Well, ex had been saying way before the appointment. that "He needs to wear his glasses all the time." Obviously being six years old, Junior didn't wear his glasses all the time until she went to another eye doctor and probably asked him to write that the kid has to wear his glasses all the time. There is really no reason for this. All my kids wore glasses, and Bart had terrible vision, but there was no way he wore them all the time a nd he didn't go blind. Well, at Bart's house, Bart doesn't make him wear his glasses and it drives ex nuts so I'm assuming it's about that. But Bart is already catastrophizing that this may be prelude for another custody battle, which she lost last time and nothing new has popped up this time, except the glasses and that she bore another poor baby to the man that she ran off with and is now married to. This is when Bart is at his worst and under pressure. He asked for my advice and I told him just to chill out, that she lost last time and she has nothing and that this is just mediation anyway. He went on a rampage and I got off the phone as he was losing it. If Bart goes ballistic every time his ex takes him to mediation or even court, he's going to blow his skull out of his head and watch it smash on the ceiling. He started saying, "DO YOU THINK I CAN GO THREW THIS AGAIN?" I just said, "Yes. It's no big deal. She lost everything she asked for last time." "But she's conniving and sneaky!" "And judges, mediator, and lawyers are highly intelligent and didn't fall for it the first time and aren't going to this time." "That's just because the GAL said to keep it 50/50." "Yeah, and she'll say it again. She's not a dummy either. She's a lawyer too." "But what if it goes into a full blown custody battle?" Rinse, repeat. The thing that bugs me is that I was supposed to visit Junior next week. I'm not working right now as I recover from surgery and Bart was going to pay for it. Now he can't and we can't. So I guess I won't see Junior. And, honestly, if Bart is all worked up over ANYTHLING it's always best not to go see him. He is only good company when he is calm and not catastrophizing. Then he is MEAN. And he expects me to be the one who calms him down yet he yells at everything I say. And I was just thinking how nice it is that I can "see" my granddaughter every single day by Skyping her (she recognizes me and gets all excited to see me) and to Skype Junior and finally get to see him too. Well, guess that just isn't going to happen. And guess I'll have to go low contact with Bart until this episode is over. I am not going to deal with what I did during the custody battle. His ex acts like a nutcase in court and I'm sure everyone is onto her right away. Fortunately, Bart can hide his feelings pretty well when he has to, but he never tries to hide them to me!!