Just found this site. Thank you. I read quite a few posts very similar to mine. My son will be 42 in Sep 2017 and still calling me for financial help. About 20 years ago, I helped willingly. My husband passed away 13 years ago. When my husband was alive, he would tell me some help is Ok, but I was doing too much. I am now a retired widow on a fixed income. At some point I will provide details of the assistance I provided my son beginning in his late teens, despite his stealing from my husband and I, and his siblings. However right now, I am jumping to present day. Last month (July 2017) my son calls and says he saved $2,200 and only needed $600 more to move into an apartment (his credit is shot). I promptly sent the money. Three weeks later, he calls. He stated he avoided hitting a drunk driver and hit a tree. He needs $2,500 to get his car fixed to get to work. Told him that I no longer had funds like that and he was on his own. Well according to him without a car he couldn't get to work, so he didn't go to work, lost the apartment. He has been moving around a lot. From one city to another and back again. I am assuming he uses his final paycheck to move back to Nevada. Now he calls asking for $1,500 to move into an apartment. Again I said no. Last year, I started keeping track of the money I was sending him (about $10,000 in 2016). That is not counting money sent in prior years to 2016 or this year. He texted me telling me he is now homeless in Nevada. This is breaking my heart.