Brief Update: The Mostly Good --- difficult child still in rehab, genuinely working the program. Looks good (putting on weight, appetite back), sounds good (overall calmer, more reachable -- still has gaps at times, but seems better). Case manager is invaluable with assistance. The New Wrinkle --- difficult child just diagnosis'd with MRSA. He's openly scared. Will see where it goes for him, medically, as he needs a full medical work-up (he has open sores bursting now). The Gratitude --- Generally speaking, we have had several good conversations with difficult child. More than we've had in years. As such, we are being wise to keep certain boundaries (time, distance, etc) to keep things positive between us. And that is exactly what we tell difficult child about our boundaries -- "Things are going well and we want to keep it that way." So far, so good. Oh, a second Gratitude, too --- To whomever it was that said the phrase "Radical Acceptance" to me in this forum.....THANK YOU! I got a little dazed last week with stuff, but that phrase "Radical Acceptance" kept coming back to my mind like a beacon light and I greatly appreciated it! It re-centered me and husband, both, in all good ways, so it's been our mantra for days now. "Radical Acceptance" is such a very helpful mantra for bringing wisdom, understanding, and love into full bloom in seeing and acting in The Big Picture!