dstc_99
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I am new here and thought I would introduce myself. I am a military wife and mother of two beautiful girls. The oldest suffers from ODD and the youngest from ADD and anxiety. My husband is currently deployed and I am working full time while attending college and supporting the girls afterschool activities.
All in all I am exhausted. I spend my days trying to fade into the background and not upset the oldest who is 17 and determined to make me pay for everything that goes on in her life. On the oposite side of that I spend the rest of my time reassuring my youngest that she is loved and trying to be a part of her life. The youngest is very needy! I swear she hugs me 10 times a day and wants to lay all over me all the time and she is almost 13 at this point.
I just cant seem to find a balance and feel like I am failing both of them. We are all in therapy to help with it but honestly I don't feel much is changing. Any advice on how to parent without getting emotionally beaten by an angry teen who gets irrational and harms herself? Oh year and on how to show the younger one all the attention she needs without causing further drama with the oldest?
Sara
All in all I am exhausted. I spend my days trying to fade into the background and not upset the oldest who is 17 and determined to make me pay for everything that goes on in her life. On the oposite side of that I spend the rest of my time reassuring my youngest that she is loved and trying to be a part of her life. The youngest is very needy! I swear she hugs me 10 times a day and wants to lay all over me all the time and she is almost 13 at this point.
I just cant seem to find a balance and feel like I am failing both of them. We are all in therapy to help with it but honestly I don't feel much is changing. Any advice on how to parent without getting emotionally beaten by an angry teen who gets irrational and harms herself? Oh year and on how to show the younger one all the attention she needs without causing further drama with the oldest?
Sara