It has been a very difficult week-end, but I now feel stronger about keeping difficult child out of our house. He went to the IOP meeting on Saturday morning with h and I, and it seemed like he really listened to everything that they said. After the meeting he promised us that he would go to the next meeting on Tuesday. But of course we now know that everything that he said was a lie. He went out with some friends on Saturday night and stayed out the entire night. We had made it very clear to difficult child that if he was high we would not let him stay in our house. He told us yesterday that he did not come home because he was high on weed and he knew that we would not let him back in the house. He stayed at a friend's house, and did not come home until Sunday night. He also admitted to us that he used weed on Friday, Saturday and Sunday. I asked him about other drugs and he also admitted that he takes triple C pills. H and I had a long talk with difficult child on Sunday night, and he told us that he would go to school on Monday if I would drive him to school instead of taking the bus. We were all calm when we were talking and he admitted that he is having a hard time stopping weed because he likes the "thrill" of using it. He actually said this to us. difficult child also told us that he would go to the IOP meeting on Tuesday night. However everything fell apart today, because difficult child did not want to go to school at all. He was not high, he was rested and clear headed, but he kept telling me that he wanted to stay home today and he would go to school on Tuesday. I was so furious that difficult child refused to go to school one more day that I told him I wanted him to leave the house. He would not leave until he found some money (which I refused to give to him) so I had to calll 911 and ask the police to come to my house. This scared difficult child enough that he did leave the house without any money or cell phone. I told him before he left that since he refuses to go to school he will not be allowed to live in our house. The cops came to my house and told me that if difficult child returns tonight that I should call 911 again. They can not actually force difficult child to leave without an eviction notice, but they can use their authority to persuade him to leave our property. difficult child did tell me that he would be back home tonight, but I told him that we would not let him in our house. I have put his backpack with a few clothes and a sleeping bag on our front porch, and that is all we are doing for him. difficult child has been truant from school for 4 days this quarter, and the cops can give him a ticket for truancy. He will then have to go to court and explain to a judge why he won't go to school. I think that difficult child needs to go back to the residential program for rehab, and I have talked to the program that he was in about getting him admitted. We have to wait until difficult child realizes that he needs help, and then we will take him to rehab. I am very sad that difficult child refuses to even go to school, but I now know that this is a lost cause. I was pleading with difficult child to get in my car today so that I could take him to school, and he just stood outside the car and refused to get in the car. I can see now that there is nothing that I can do to convince difficult child to go to school and pass his classes. I refuse to plead with difficult child again over school, because it is not worth the aggravation. I think that difficult child will still try to get back in our house tonight, but we are not going to open our doors for him. Thanks for everyone who gave me advice about difficult child. I now know for sure that he is using weed and triple C, and we have done as much as we can do to help our son.