Marcie Mac
Just Plain Ole Tired
Honestly, I don't know that there is a man cure for this - my house is 2,000 square foot, and living with three men, I see the same thing - size is all relative when it comes to men and their men stuff. No different from guys who are doing farming stuff and guys who work with a friend cleaning storage buildings LOL- I am on SO like white on rice when it comes to his stuff and where he puts it and do it when I see him comming in the house with this "stuff"- honestly, I will follow him around - what are you doing with that, where are you going with that, I KNOW you are not going to leave that here, or there. We have a closet that goes an entire length of the wall - me, I have about one forth of it-he has the rest. And I will find his stuff on one of the shelves in my part, cause he didn't have "room"- its promptly thrown on his side of the bed, where he will start to grumble about not having any space for his "stuff". Same with the boys and my dining room - they will take apart computers in there and then leave the boxes, spare computer parts, shirts cause you know its impossible to put together a computer with a shirt on. There is a closet by the front door for coats - and they are hung on the chairs instead. I have a spare bedroom but you wouldn't know it because it is a catch all for SO's and Danny's "stuff"-the garage is full of tools found at storage that are never going to be used but taken because its too good to throw away. One table saw is sufficent, the other 4 are just taking space
He has actually brought home one of those large portable sheds - we put it together and I said ok, tools for the yard go in there -made him go get all of the lawn stuff from the garage and put them in the shed. Didn't have a lot of stuff just a wheelbarrow, bags of mulch, a rake, shovel, one ladder and some misc digging tools, my spare pots - don't own a lawnmower because I have a GARDENER. This erecting of the shed gave him a green light to bring home that kind of stuff he found in storage. Ok, dude, do we need 14 shovels, really, 14?? The gardener is very happy to come to my house every week because I give him a lot of free stuff. Last week he got like 4 tree trimming tools (we have ONE tree in the front yard that doesn't need to be trimmed)
Sorry, didn't mean to go off on a vent. My system is after something is cleaned to shadow whatever person is in that room - pain in the tush, but it helps. I am told I am annoying with the "what are you doing with that, why are you putting that there, I just cleaned this room up, but it works somewhat. If I see that the boys cook, take their food to their room, come back out with dirty dishes, I meet them in the kitchen with the "I know you are not leaving that stuff for me to wash" - then stand there till dishes are started to be washed
And the only laundry I do is my own-I will, if asked, take stuff out of the washer to put in dryer, or dryer to their laundry basket and put it in their rooms if they are rushing off to work, and if I have time, occasionally fold their stuff. Everyone in the house works so I don't need to be doing anyone else's stuff cept my own - grown a**ed men can do their own laundry.
Marcie
He has actually brought home one of those large portable sheds - we put it together and I said ok, tools for the yard go in there -made him go get all of the lawn stuff from the garage and put them in the shed. Didn't have a lot of stuff just a wheelbarrow, bags of mulch, a rake, shovel, one ladder and some misc digging tools, my spare pots - don't own a lawnmower because I have a GARDENER. This erecting of the shed gave him a green light to bring home that kind of stuff he found in storage. Ok, dude, do we need 14 shovels, really, 14?? The gardener is very happy to come to my house every week because I give him a lot of free stuff. Last week he got like 4 tree trimming tools (we have ONE tree in the front yard that doesn't need to be trimmed)
Sorry, didn't mean to go off on a vent. My system is after something is cleaned to shadow whatever person is in that room - pain in the tush, but it helps. I am told I am annoying with the "what are you doing with that, why are you putting that there, I just cleaned this room up, but it works somewhat. If I see that the boys cook, take their food to their room, come back out with dirty dishes, I meet them in the kitchen with the "I know you are not leaving that stuff for me to wash" - then stand there till dishes are started to be washed
And the only laundry I do is my own-I will, if asked, take stuff out of the washer to put in dryer, or dryer to their laundry basket and put it in their rooms if they are rushing off to work, and if I have time, occasionally fold their stuff. Everyone in the house works so I don't need to be doing anyone else's stuff cept my own - grown a**ed men can do their own laundry.
Marcie