PatriotsGirl
Well-Known Member
I feel better after talking with M this morning. He asked me to call him so I did and we had a long talk.
He did not hire difficult child a lawyer so that she could get out. He hired him so that difficult child can have some rights - like she told him that she is sleeping on a top bunk. She is five months pregnant and should not be climbing to a top bunk. I agree with that and have put a call in to the jail. Had to leave a voicemail, of course.
I told him that I get waves of guilt that she is still there and he told me NO - to NOT feel guilty. He agrees that she is there because of HER actions and her choices. He is frustrated with her, as we all are, that she continually blames everyone for everything and doesn't "own" her "koi". He told me he was on the phone with her that morning and she told him that she was readying a dose and they got into a fight about that. So she went to pretrial services high and blames ME??
We cleared up some untruths on both sides that difficult child has told. We both agree that she probably doesn't even know anymore where the lies end and the truth begins.
We both agree that we want difficult child clean and stable to be a good mother to Connor (and M is hoping a wife). He is now on my side about everything. He said he thought 18 months was a bit extreme but agreed that difficult child probably needs that. She claims she doesn't want it because she doesn't want to stay in that county, but he told her she can change her address all day long, but until she wants to change as a person - it won't help a thing.
She told him that her shoplifting charge came up (did she honestly think it wouldn't??). She told him that she was told she was going to be locked up through July. He told me jail stinks, but it won't kill her and he was praying it would give her some humility. But he is frustrated that he hasn't seen any. We are both glad that Connor has had this time to be healthy, though and tomorrow will be 21 days clean.
She also told him that she has been going to church a lot and wanted to continue going when she got out. I see that as a good thing!!
So, my resolve is strengthened and I feel a bit better about her still being locked up. He offered to show me the picture he has of baby Connor if I came out there but I can't leave work for that - it is almost an hour to get there.
He did not hire difficult child a lawyer so that she could get out. He hired him so that difficult child can have some rights - like she told him that she is sleeping on a top bunk. She is five months pregnant and should not be climbing to a top bunk. I agree with that and have put a call in to the jail. Had to leave a voicemail, of course.
I told him that I get waves of guilt that she is still there and he told me NO - to NOT feel guilty. He agrees that she is there because of HER actions and her choices. He is frustrated with her, as we all are, that she continually blames everyone for everything and doesn't "own" her "koi". He told me he was on the phone with her that morning and she told him that she was readying a dose and they got into a fight about that. So she went to pretrial services high and blames ME??
We cleared up some untruths on both sides that difficult child has told. We both agree that she probably doesn't even know anymore where the lies end and the truth begins.
We both agree that we want difficult child clean and stable to be a good mother to Connor (and M is hoping a wife). He is now on my side about everything. He said he thought 18 months was a bit extreme but agreed that difficult child probably needs that. She claims she doesn't want it because she doesn't want to stay in that county, but he told her she can change her address all day long, but until she wants to change as a person - it won't help a thing.
She told him that her shoplifting charge came up (did she honestly think it wouldn't??). She told him that she was told she was going to be locked up through July. He told me jail stinks, but it won't kill her and he was praying it would give her some humility. But he is frustrated that he hasn't seen any. We are both glad that Connor has had this time to be healthy, though and tomorrow will be 21 days clean.
She also told him that she has been going to church a lot and wanted to continue going when she got out. I see that as a good thing!!
So, my resolve is strengthened and I feel a bit better about her still being locked up. He offered to show me the picture he has of baby Connor if I came out there but I can't leave work for that - it is almost an hour to get there.
