mother in law called last night and I happened to be the only one home. We ended up having a fairly lengthy and mostly pleasant, if somewhat stilted, conversation. We mostly discussed the plans and arrangements for the memorial service on Saturday, her incoming flight arrival, etc. She asked me for the name of the exit at HER airport that she needed to get off at in order to catch her flight Friday morning...?? I'm worried for her traveling just that short distance alone and wish she'd have someone drive her! I told her she should ask a friend to drive her but she has to leave her home at 6:30AM and doesn't want to inconvenience anyone. Then she asked me how she 'acquires' her boarding pass...oh my. I was going to explain to her about checking in on line, but then thought better of it and just told her to check in at the airport, that when she checks her bags, they will print her ticket. She's flying Southwest, which means she will be in the last group to board. I would have liked her to be one of the first to board. Oy, I hope she makes it okay and doesn't miss her flight! At one point in the conversation, she asked me for my social security number. She's kind of sketchy that way, just asks for random personal information. I asked her why she needed it and she just said, "I am adding you to something and I need that for the form" so who the heck knows. I guess I've finally made it to 'family' status, lol. H said she's probably gearing up to change some of her financials and has decided to add me along with him. While she's with us, she and H will be meeting his sister (the family attorney) in NY to meet with their dad's lifetime financial advisor to get his name off the records and rearrange monthly payouts, etc., so H is thinking that's what this is for. I'm guessing she is not planning on stealing my identity, so all is well. And, I don't want to know in a way, it would cause me to think about it too much. I've fixed up the spare room (difficult child's old room) very nice for her with new bedding, sheets, comfy pillows, a window fan, etc. It's clean and comfy, cozy. My house is always clean, it just gets the normal wear and tear during the week along with mail clutter. I have class tonight so I won't really have time to do any major cleaning. I already cleared all the junk mail, the kitchen is tidy, I need to change the tablecloth, easy child is cleaning the bathroom for me today, and tomorrow AM I will pass the vacuum fast. That's all I can muster up the strength for at this point. I'm sure it will be fine. After all, we have our kitchen ceiling all torn apart and insulation hanging out, hahaha, from H's construction project. We're a bit cramped as I've lost an entire hall closet as well as some precious shelving. I'm constantly purging and tossing things out, rearranging and organizing, storing, etc. So there's plenty to detract from the usual wear and tear. There's only so much I can do, right? Just don't have the energy to be freaked out. So, I'm feeling less stressed about mother in law coming to stay with us. I think I may see a side of her personality emerging since father in law's death that I kind of like. He had a very strong personality and I did notice because of that she seemed a bit stiff and stifled most of the time. I am cautiously optimistic, as my title says. I will still have my guard up because, after all, she's not been the nicest to me for over 15 years (and that's putting it mildly), but I'm willing to give her a chance to redeem herself, lol!!!