I do believe that if I am right about 'the rest of the story', that it is not a big time operation. Personal consumption and maybe supply a few buddies. I also believe Cgfg is oblivious. She doesn't lie well, and she slips a lot when she tries. husband doesn't catch the conflicting details in her stories, but I do, and there's never been anything in her experience that leads me to believe she knows what's going on. If I'm correct about what is going on.For the most part, I think her stepdad is harmless.. Stupid, but harmless. He likes 'stuff', apparently seems to fall into the 'let's be like Shari' camp her mom is into, and always has a get rich quick scheme going. There's more **** at that place than there is here, and if we get something 'new' that they find out about, they rush out and get it, too (I've often thought this is vain thinking on my part, however...you just can't deny some of it, and she used to say she was jealous of me with re: to build and attitude; but in a group of 6 or 8 couples of friends...I bought the first camper inthe group; next camping trip, she has a camper; i got a new truck; 6weeks later, she buys a truck and admits she wanted diesel (which i had) but couldnt afford it; i put a horse sticker on my truck window; horse sticker on hers; got a trailer; she got a trailer; when i started riding my paint horse, she approached several local horse folks trying to trade her sorrell for a paint...more recently, they stopped to drop difficult child off and in less than 2 months, had beagles, chickens, and goats at their place (things I've had for several years) Cgf makes routine and random comments about their overall lack of friends and secluded life, so I don't believe they are a hopping drug joint. Her grandparents (her mothers parents) live right there, also, and I really don't think they would put up with something like that. I know it sounds awful to say I think my stepdaughter lives in a home like that and wish to do nothing about it...that's not the case at all. If I could, I'd take her. As much as I don't want her chaos. But her mother has done nothing proven, so visitation would be liberal, even if we had custody. And then mother would be angrier, and we'd be dealing with much more. As it is, Cgfg is seeing her mothers behavior for what it is. She has a step sister that her stepdads ex won't let come visit them (she let's the boys visit tho). Cgfg has recognized her mom does a lot of the same things step dads ex does. She sees the manipulation and guilting her into things. And I really think it's just a matter of time before we get a call from Cgfg at midnight to come get her, she's moving in. Her mom has already told her more than once, in response to Cgfg wanting to come over to go to shooting practice or ride her horse, if she wants to be here so bad, go and never come back. One of these days, likely Cgfg will do it. It's not a good situation, but there is no good solution to it, either.
