Jody, I personally think that ODD and ADHD are just adjectives. They occur because of an underlying disorder.
If your daughter is Aspie, she could be using only part of her brain ... IOW, part of her brain has matured, and other parts haven't. It takes yrs for it all to even out, if they ever do. In the meantime, her frontal lobes are excited with-an overload of excess electrical activity, and she is overstimulated by many things. That could be where the anxiety is coming from.
If the Adderal and Wellbutrin are working, fine, but you may want to explore other avenues.
If she's an Aspie, you will want to break things into littler steps. You will want to repeat things a few more times. You may want to hold your breath and count to ten when she comes up with-some ridiculous idea ... again ... because in reality, she can't help it. You may want to come up with-alternatives for calming behaviors that are not destructive or time wasting, say, if she repeats herself, if she checks doorlocks repeatedly, if she checks the dog's collar. "Let's take off the collar in the hallway where the dog is safe and let's see how the collar is put together and if we need to buy another one." (There are, in face, non-slip collars but I'm not sure they're worth it.) "Okay, now that we've checked the collar, let's make sure that it's not too tight. We'll slip one or two fingers between the collar and the dog's neck and that will show that it's comfy. If it's too loose, it will come off. If it's too tight, it will be uncomfortable."
Then you can practice obedience with-the dog, by using the collar and leash and practicing "Stay" or "Sit" or "Come," and letting the leash drag behind the dog. You do this in a fenced-in area. That is the perfect backup plan for any dog and owner who are outdoors.
In order for cognitive therapy to work, you will have to get her to sit still long enough to have a conversation with-her, and a verbal exchange. It is also important to use an authority figure, as most of our kids blow us off. I have often pd $100 for a therapist to tell my difficult child the exact same thing I have said, but it's worth the $ because he listens!
Cognitive therapy is pretty much what it sounds like. It is basic and instructional,but it is a lot of hard work.
It helps keep you from letting your mind run away with-what-ifs, or catastrophizing.
Here is an example: You are terrified of flying, but you are looking forward your upcoming, totally paid vacation to Tahiti. You are all packed, the kids are packed. You are lying in bed, unable to sleep, because you keep imagining that you are on the plane, sitting in a window seat, the plane lurches, you grab the armrest, and the plane plummets. Over and over again. You cannot sleep.
Cognitive therapy would teach you to remind yourself that you are, in fact, at home, in your nice, warm, safe bed. Your family is asleep in their own beds. Your bags are packed. If you go to sleep and you awaken and still feel like you cannot fly, you cancel the flight. Better yet, you consider that the odds of crashing in a plane are minimal (especially compared to car crashes, which only seem safer because you're on the ground) and that your trip will be safe, uneventful, and fun.
Over and over, you remind yourself that you are at home, in your own bed, snuggled with-your own pillow, until you fall asleep.
Another example: Your husband suggests you two go to a movie. You agree and are very excited. You begin to read off the movies that are playing. After listening a while, and saying he doesn't like each of the movies, husband says, "I don't really want to go to a movie after all. I'll just stay home."
You think, "He doesn't love me! We were going to a movie and now we're not doing ANYTHING together! I thought he wanted to be with me! He's a jerk and I'm going to divorce him."
Cognitive therapy would teach you that your husband, in fact, merely stated that he wanted to see a movie and that nothing out there was interesting. He never, ever said he didn't love you. Yes, he could have said, "What can we do instead?" but if you cried on his shoulder and said he didn't love you, he wouldn't know what you are talking about.
Stop and assess the situation. What were the words that were said? Were they said calmly? Flippantly? In the heat of the moment? Was your husband stabbing a finger in your chest and blaming you for all the crummy movies that come out of Hollywood? Was he complaining that you're lousy in bed, a lousy cook, and a lousier gardener?
Nope.
Okay, now that you've finished going hysterical at my stupid examples, quit laughing and admit you kind of get the idea ...