klmno
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PO never called me back to get updated info on difficult child- I thought that was a little odd since she said she was meeting with her supervisor yesterday afternoon about difficult child. Yep, she goes into courtroom and says that up until a couple of months, difficult child had done "fairly well" (in the tone of voice that actually means minimally acceptable). Up until a couple of months ago, difficult child had NO issues pertaining to her rules or "biggies" at home, etc., so I felt it should have been reported that he had done excellent. He had been compliant with EVERYTHING she had asked, gone to all appointments on time, etc.
She never brought up one good word about him or relayed the "good word" put in for difficult child from school principal or officer at school (I was there when principal made the call, so I know it happened and officer at school told difficult child and me today that he had put a good word in- he also mentioned that he didn't think the po was a very nice person.)
She said she wasn't asking for him to be held in detention until his June court date because he had done "fairly well" and was going to school and that I had been working with school on IEP, but she was asking for him to be put back on monitor. (I don't know why she was pushing for the judge to rule it- the PO had him on it before without any input from judge.) So, the defense attny didn't bring up much either- he said difficult child had been cooperative with counseling, etc., that I had been keeping a close eye and was proactive in getting medication changes, etc.; that difficult child had been cycling between depression and mania and that the monitor caused him a great deal of anxiety at school. Judge kind of looks like this is a joke (why do they order mental health treatment if they think it is a joke? If it didn't effect their ability to function normally in the real world, it wouldn't be much of a problem, Know what I mean?)
Anyway, she ordered that he go back on the monitor through probation and that if he disobeyed one of the PO"s rules, he would have to appear in court for judge to decide to put him on outreach monitor(which quite frankly, I am thinking about asking for today), or in detention.
The thing is, if he goes out without permission on a FRi., the PO doesn't know about it until Mon., so it doesn't prevent anything and she would know about it anyway because I would tell her, or if he got in trouble, we all would know it by then anyway (my difficult child does the types of things that don't stay hidden very long, if at all.) The outreach monitor has an actual person monitoring his whereabouts 24/7, so if he went out without permission, they would have a policeman there pretty quickly (if a phone call isn't made immediately) and something might get prevented.
Really, I think the problem is mania and it is going to be all I can do this afternoon when I take difficult child over there for PO to put this on him to not make some sarcastic remarks to her about this preventing mania and how she appears to be assuming that this will be any more effective that it was 2 weeks ago when he ended up in psychiatric hospital; should I call her while he walks on the roof or afterwards; oh, I'm going to have to bite my tongue. And why is it so important to update her on anything if she doesn't take it all into consideration. Even the policeman at school said this didn't look right- he said it appears this PO is coming down on difficult child a lot harder than most kids.
Anyway, he's not on my "good" list right now either (meaning difficult child), but this PO is leading me to take an interest in VooDoo. I was going to talk to difficult child about what needs to be done to start earning a couple of his priviledges (not all) back, since he has been grounded for 2 mos. I figured this might help in getting things back on a better track. Now that can't happen. This PO wants difficult child sitting in a room staring at four walls and said that me taking difficult child to a park to pick up garbage for community service was giving him more fresh air than he deserved.
She never brought up one good word about him or relayed the "good word" put in for difficult child from school principal or officer at school (I was there when principal made the call, so I know it happened and officer at school told difficult child and me today that he had put a good word in- he also mentioned that he didn't think the po was a very nice person.)
She said she wasn't asking for him to be held in detention until his June court date because he had done "fairly well" and was going to school and that I had been working with school on IEP, but she was asking for him to be put back on monitor. (I don't know why she was pushing for the judge to rule it- the PO had him on it before without any input from judge.) So, the defense attny didn't bring up much either- he said difficult child had been cooperative with counseling, etc., that I had been keeping a close eye and was proactive in getting medication changes, etc.; that difficult child had been cycling between depression and mania and that the monitor caused him a great deal of anxiety at school. Judge kind of looks like this is a joke (why do they order mental health treatment if they think it is a joke? If it didn't effect their ability to function normally in the real world, it wouldn't be much of a problem, Know what I mean?)
Anyway, she ordered that he go back on the monitor through probation and that if he disobeyed one of the PO"s rules, he would have to appear in court for judge to decide to put him on outreach monitor(which quite frankly, I am thinking about asking for today), or in detention.
The thing is, if he goes out without permission on a FRi., the PO doesn't know about it until Mon., so it doesn't prevent anything and she would know about it anyway because I would tell her, or if he got in trouble, we all would know it by then anyway (my difficult child does the types of things that don't stay hidden very long, if at all.) The outreach monitor has an actual person monitoring his whereabouts 24/7, so if he went out without permission, they would have a policeman there pretty quickly (if a phone call isn't made immediately) and something might get prevented.
Really, I think the problem is mania and it is going to be all I can do this afternoon when I take difficult child over there for PO to put this on him to not make some sarcastic remarks to her about this preventing mania and how she appears to be assuming that this will be any more effective that it was 2 weeks ago when he ended up in psychiatric hospital; should I call her while he walks on the roof or afterwards; oh, I'm going to have to bite my tongue. And why is it so important to update her on anything if she doesn't take it all into consideration. Even the policeman at school said this didn't look right- he said it appears this PO is coming down on difficult child a lot harder than most kids.
Anyway, he's not on my "good" list right now either (meaning difficult child), but this PO is leading me to take an interest in VooDoo. I was going to talk to difficult child about what needs to be done to start earning a couple of his priviledges (not all) back, since he has been grounded for 2 mos. I figured this might help in getting things back on a better track. Now that can't happen. This PO wants difficult child sitting in a room staring at four walls and said that me taking difficult child to a park to pick up garbage for community service was giving him more fresh air than he deserved.