Let me start by saying, this is really not about MY difficult children. (thank heaven above) First let me just tell you something and get your opinions because while I've seen just about everything as far as human behavior goes.........this one has my mouth hanging open. You all know that I come from a family of difficult children and there are members who have some serious mental illness going on. Well........I can honestly say that someone even has Stormy topped. Ok. Say you know a 25 yr old girl very well. So well that you know the forums she goes to online and of her blogs, even though she's using a false identity because she told you that is who she was. by the way she's been at this for several years, probably since around age 16-17. There is no reason to believe this girls sexual interest is anything other than hetero. In her blog profile she claims an elaborate name. She claims to be a homosexual male, "married" to two other males. The girl stands at least 6 feet in her stocking feet. (she's always been exceptionally tall for her age, at 6 months she was as tall as a 2 yr old) yet in her profile she claims to be short and small of stature. She claims ethnicity that she is not (seriously over the top with this one, I don't think she left many out and 90 percent are false) She claims to speak nearly as many languages. ( she doesn't, except perhaps some street Spanish due to where she lives) She claims to be a profound artist. (honestly, I'm not even sure the work is hers.....it has a vague familiarity to it but I'm not much into that type of "art") But I've never heard of anyone speak of her talent. And so we have a complicated fantasy reality revolving around these 2 so called "husbands" and their escapades, her art.......yadda yadda yadda. The only true thing I found that she posted was her birthdate, that she has a niece, and that she recently joined the Air Force and is due to show up at basic training in the near future. And trust me, this is some really involved stuff. This is my niece I'm talking about. Sis in texas' youngest daughter H. Travis and her spent a lot of time together one summer and have stayed in fairly close touch for years since. Travis is the one who comes to me with the information because he is disturbed by it. When he first came to me when they were still in HS I figured her passing herself off as a guy was a way to keep the pervs that lurk in such places at bay. Although, it did bug me at the times he kept bringing it up. But please, at that stage I had my own fish to fry with Nichole. But if Travis is disturbed enough by her posts in the various forums and blogs she has.......well, that alone is a huge red flag. He normally doesn't pick up on that sort of thing too well. H has had issues as a child, although nothing too major, mostly anxiety. As a teen she basically became antisocial, except for her instant friendship with Travis (same interests), which was encouraged due to her normal antisocial behaviors. She'd camp out in her room, and getting her to come out to eat was a war......school was WWIII. I know in the middle of Nichole going through her nose dive sis called me with some serious concerns. I, of course, told her H needed an evaluation and to be under a doctor's care. She said she was and had a diagnosis of borderline.....but she didn't feel the diagnosis fit. Now a year later I approached the subject with her and sis decided H was magically cured because she went to church.......and yes, like I said, I have a family of weird folks. Sis is the queen of stick your head in the sand long enough maybe it will all go away. Due to my mom, my aunt, and our maternal grandfather........this mental stuff scares the daylights out of her. (I don't think I need to mention all the sibs and cousins too) I tried to talk sense to her, but she was not receptive and we've never spoke about it since. And that was oh about 4 -6 years ago maybe. in my opinion, having read a rather broad sample of her posts, I think this goes beyond borderline. This is an intricate alternate reality she has created......I think what is so disturbing is the way she writes it is as if she truly believes it is real. Now I realize that is the point, to make those who read it think she's being upfront and honest.......but still, I can look at it as someone who writes for entertainment and spot her slip ups. They are small enough someone who didn't know her probably would miss, but I'm sure some wonder. The truth is this is a 25 yr old girl who is a loner, antisocial, riddled with anxiety who still lives in her bedroom 24/7 (sis did admit this much in recent phone calls). When Mom told me of her signing up with the Air Force, I immediately knew it was sis kicking her out of the nest. It's what sis's eldest did when she finally got fed up enough to give him a deadline to get out. Because there is no way I believe that my niece with her issues suddenly got a wild hair to go join up on her own. She's never even had a job. This is a way to survive once Mom tosses her out, period, just as it was for her brother. (who happens to be doing fine now, he has some odd issues of his own but is mostly easy child) I see it as a really bad idea. I just can not believe that someone who passes themselves off as a homosexual male in a relationship (marriage) with 2 other males with much imagined drama......is mentally stable. The girl has never even been on a date because she refuses to leave the house except under force. I'm not really sure what to do with the information either. Sis doesn't do online. Her husband does......but honestly I think he would be impossible to convince due to the alias that this is his little girl doing this. Know what I mean?? And H is an adult so there wouldn't be really anything they can do about it unless she was willing to attempt treatment again. Any thoughts? I will say I'm not thinking of going to sis with this as I know even if I could find a way for her to access it she wouldn't be receptive. But I'd like some educated insights as to what you think is going on with her. I realize borderlines do attention seeking behavior.....but I think this is a bit extreme for a borderline.