My thirteen year old has learning disabilities...most notably an auditory processing disorder. She has always told me she can't pay attention. Everyone said "no" to ADHD. Ok, now she asked me again to test her for it because she has so much trouble paying attention. She also is very disorganized and forgets things, although with help from the resource teacher her grades have been pretty good C-plus average. She is a happy, well-adjusted teen and frankly I don't want to go through another neuropsychologist evaluation with her. So... 1/How do you know if somebody has ADHD and, if so, can it be managed without medication? I am very anti-stimulant for teenagers because my oldest daughter has informed me that these drugs are abused by teens a lot. Now, this daughter is NOTHING like her sister and I doubt she'd ever abuse drugs...but her birthfather IS a drug addict. It worries me that maybe there could be a genetic predisposition...I really don't want to go there since her life is good, except for this pesty inability to concentrate. 2/What does ADHD really look like? My daughter has no behavioral problems or social issues. She is level-headed and not particularly impulsive. Can she still have ADHD? Thanks to all moms!