Just wondering how all of you deal with extended family when it comes to difficult child issues.
My mother, who lives across the country from us, is coming for a visit next month. We see her maybe one or two times a year. I have tried to keep her updated about Bug's issues, but I think she is in complete denial. She has been mad at me lately because I failed to call her on an important day in our family. I feel terrible about that and have apologized several times. However, I've also explained to her that on that day, Bug vomitted in the middle of the kitchen as soon as he got home from school, we spent the afternoon at the pediatrician for a medication check, Bug vomitted again when we got home, then he developed a new (painful) tic and spent the evening asking me to make it go away, and then we topped off the evening with Bug having a panic attack and thinking he was dying.
So, I think most people can see how I simply forgot to call her. Anyway, my mother has barely spoken to me since this happened. It has been a full month since that day and I have spoken to her only twice. She doesn't return my calls and the two times I've spoken to her she has completely avoided the question of how Bug is doing.
Obviously, I'm annoyed. I really don't understand how she can not call to see how Bug is doing, even if she is mad at me. My therapist says that having her visit and see first hand what our life is like is the best thing that can happen. I hope it will help.
Anyway, just wondering if any of you have advice on how to deal with family.
My mother, who lives across the country from us, is coming for a visit next month. We see her maybe one or two times a year. I have tried to keep her updated about Bug's issues, but I think she is in complete denial. She has been mad at me lately because I failed to call her on an important day in our family. I feel terrible about that and have apologized several times. However, I've also explained to her that on that day, Bug vomitted in the middle of the kitchen as soon as he got home from school, we spent the afternoon at the pediatrician for a medication check, Bug vomitted again when we got home, then he developed a new (painful) tic and spent the evening asking me to make it go away, and then we topped off the evening with Bug having a panic attack and thinking he was dying.
So, I think most people can see how I simply forgot to call her. Anyway, my mother has barely spoken to me since this happened. It has been a full month since that day and I have spoken to her only twice. She doesn't return my calls and the two times I've spoken to her she has completely avoided the question of how Bug is doing.
Obviously, I'm annoyed. I really don't understand how she can not call to see how Bug is doing, even if she is mad at me. My therapist says that having her visit and see first hand what our life is like is the best thing that can happen. I hope it will help.
Anyway, just wondering if any of you have advice on how to deal with family.