mar 6-ant is out of jail one yr and complying. no real troubles except ant's frequent asking if he can have a girl sleepover-a diff one daily it seems. (NO)
march 12-I get home from work and ant says he wants me to get a loan and build a big garage out back with an apartment over top. he says he will pay the loan pyts. I tell him I am not getting a loan and it is not good for a man to live in his mom's backyard. I tell him he is making more money than me now and can get an apartment elsewhere if he wants. he gets up from the dinner table and throws a plate into the sink. boyfriend is there and we ignore it to see what unfolds.
That evening Kaleb is visiting and ant is ignoring him, playing on the computer, not putting him to bed until an hour after I say so. when I pick up kaleb to carry him to bed, ant says "give me my F ing son" he says quietly as boyfriend is in the room. He pulls Kaleb out of my arms.
boyfriend explodes at ant, yelling at him for swearing.
Ant puts Kaleb to bed and walks out. I do not hear him come back in.
March 13-I go into ant's room and he is in bed, smelling like booze. I tell him to dress kaleb and pack his lunch so I can take him to the sitter before work.
Ant drags his feet, doesnt give kaleb breakfast...and I am late for work. while at work I type a list of rules:
find an apartment in two weeks and during this time of waiting:
no swearing or disrepect of me
take care of Kaleb's needs and put him to bed on time
clean up his room and dishes, do his laundry
I find out that ant has called my mother and sister, danielle and told them I threw him and kaleb out right then and there. I tell ant kaleb is never thrown out and I am being generous giving him two weeks to find housing. kaleb can stay.
march 14-Ant rolls the list into a ball and throws it on my bed. he tells me my priorities are screwed up and I care more about my boyfriend than my own family. he tells me he is not speaking to me any more. what is does is glare at me if I speak to him, but only if boyfriend is not present. with boyfriend present he talks normal to me like nothing has happened.
March 15-This morning, he sends Kaleb out not dressed. I dress and feed him and take him to the sitter. Ant stalls while boyfriend is starting the truck to ride them to work. Ant doesnt come out and boyfriend finally goes in. Ant lies and tells boyfriend that I told him he was fired. boyfriend tells ant to get in the truck and lets get to work. after work Ant's dad pulls in my driveway and takes ant and kaleb to look at a trailer for rent near him. The trailer park owner calls boyfriend for a reference for ant. boyfriend tells ant he will still employ him and give him rides to and from work two dys a week, and he must get his own rides the other three days.
I leave for boyfriend's for the weekend. boyfriend tells me to hang tight and not back down/it is time for ant to move on.
so...here I am. there he is. kaleb is with him at my house. my older son is there at night. I do not feel kaleb is in danger. I do feel ant is drinking and it is messing up his mind again. ant should be out march 30 if all goes as planned. It is time.
march 12-I get home from work and ant says he wants me to get a loan and build a big garage out back with an apartment over top. he says he will pay the loan pyts. I tell him I am not getting a loan and it is not good for a man to live in his mom's backyard. I tell him he is making more money than me now and can get an apartment elsewhere if he wants. he gets up from the dinner table and throws a plate into the sink. boyfriend is there and we ignore it to see what unfolds.
That evening Kaleb is visiting and ant is ignoring him, playing on the computer, not putting him to bed until an hour after I say so. when I pick up kaleb to carry him to bed, ant says "give me my F ing son" he says quietly as boyfriend is in the room. He pulls Kaleb out of my arms.
boyfriend explodes at ant, yelling at him for swearing.
Ant puts Kaleb to bed and walks out. I do not hear him come back in.
March 13-I go into ant's room and he is in bed, smelling like booze. I tell him to dress kaleb and pack his lunch so I can take him to the sitter before work.
Ant drags his feet, doesnt give kaleb breakfast...and I am late for work. while at work I type a list of rules:
find an apartment in two weeks and during this time of waiting:
no swearing or disrepect of me
take care of Kaleb's needs and put him to bed on time
clean up his room and dishes, do his laundry
I find out that ant has called my mother and sister, danielle and told them I threw him and kaleb out right then and there. I tell ant kaleb is never thrown out and I am being generous giving him two weeks to find housing. kaleb can stay.
march 14-Ant rolls the list into a ball and throws it on my bed. he tells me my priorities are screwed up and I care more about my boyfriend than my own family. he tells me he is not speaking to me any more. what is does is glare at me if I speak to him, but only if boyfriend is not present. with boyfriend present he talks normal to me like nothing has happened.
March 15-This morning, he sends Kaleb out not dressed. I dress and feed him and take him to the sitter. Ant stalls while boyfriend is starting the truck to ride them to work. Ant doesnt come out and boyfriend finally goes in. Ant lies and tells boyfriend that I told him he was fired. boyfriend tells ant to get in the truck and lets get to work. after work Ant's dad pulls in my driveway and takes ant and kaleb to look at a trailer for rent near him. The trailer park owner calls boyfriend for a reference for ant. boyfriend tells ant he will still employ him and give him rides to and from work two dys a week, and he must get his own rides the other three days.
I leave for boyfriend's for the weekend. boyfriend tells me to hang tight and not back down/it is time for ant to move on.
so...here I am. there he is. kaleb is with him at my house. my older son is there at night. I do not feel kaleb is in danger. I do feel ant is drinking and it is messing up his mind again. ant should be out march 30 if all goes as planned. It is time.