We met with the therapist today without difficult child and he said that we've allowed her to be defiant by not disciplining her. He said even though we don't give in to her demands, she's still "winning" because she argues and fights for several hours. He advised that we sit with her against the wall holding her still until she calms down. After everything I've read here, I'm really second guessing this. Should we go to another doctor? Our insurance only lets us see someone with a referral from our regular pediatrician.