I haven't seen my son Scott for five years (see below). He will not call me back when I call him and we did have some words five years ago, but I apologized. I found out he has a baby who is 11 months old. My ex contacted him and he is willing to see my ex. My ex got to see our grandchild. Scott has not and will not contact me, his brother or his sister. I know it's silly because it's been five years, but I feel so bummed out all over again, especially because of the baby I will never know. I left a message on his voicemail because ex insisted that Scott said he'd like to hear from all of us. Ex hears what he wants to hear. He'd like all of us to get together again, but, the fact is, Scott and his wife will only talk to HIM and he had to work hard to get them to do it. With me, he won't answer the phone. My daughter, who Scott really hurt, said she will not call him. He has to call her first and then they can talk about why he dumped her and if they should have a relationship again, but, of course, he didn't call her. My other son doesn't even want to talk to him. Easter is ruined for me in a way. I know my ex will be seeing Scott and the baby after we all leave. I did tell him that his relationship with Scott is between him and Scott and to please never bring it up to me again as it is none of my business and is hurtful. He said he wouldn't. This isn't really for advice. I thought of sending his baby a present, but he didn't really want me to know about the baby or he would have called me, and it won't break the ice (don't argue please that it will...it will not.) I have tried, but I guess the words we have will make him angry at me and my daughter and my son forever. I was pretty much over it until I heard about the baby. In my message that I left on my son's phone I told him I'd love to have a picture of his child, but got no answer. I just needed to vent. I'll get over it. Thankfully I'm in good therapy and have learned not to dwell on things I can not change. I hope I never do have to hear about Scott and his family again. Since there is nothing I can do to change anything and since I know he is financially set and happily married, there is no reason for me to know anything more. Fortunately, I do not have to worry about his well being, which is a big relief since I can't see him. Thanks for listening.