lovemysons
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husband and I did...boy did it spark a debate between us.
husband is not surprised that parents were dropping their mostly teen off in Nebraska because of their recent "Safe Haven" law.
A couple of the kids featured who were "dropped off" had bipolar or mood disorders not otherwise specified. The parents...a mother and a grandmother featured just felt they had no other choice than to drop them off at the hospital and leave.
To back up a min...the safe haven law was apparently designed for infants to be dropped off without fear of the law for abandonment. However, the lawmakers in Nebraska could not decide on an "up to" age so they did not write in an age limit...this is what has caused parents in Nebraska to drop off their troubled children...even folks from surrounding states came to drop off their children.
I was very disappointed with husband's point of view. He suggested if this was 50 yrs ago people would just take "that rebellious child out back and wear them out." He said it's because even spanking a child these days can lead to child abuse accusations that people feel they have no other choice than to "drop off their children anywhere they can or medicate them into submission."
I can't believe after all husband knows about emotional struggles from our sons perspective as well as mine growing up that he thinks regualar spankings would straighten a child out. He's learned very little over the years. He also thinks society is "overmedicated". He said the only time he thinks medicine should be involved is if someone truly is psychotic. He thinks internal pressure and resistance to pain...emotional pain, makes you stronger just like a physical workout. He said it's "all a choice".
Now, I'm not saying these are MY thoughts cause they aren't. I personally think it cruel now to let a child stay in a state of deep emotional pain, turmoil, conflict with no help. I also do NOT think that "wearing a child out" will deliver a positive outcome.
Anyway, just wondered if others saw the 20/20 program last night and what are your thoughts? Any debates in your home about this?
Tammy
husband is not surprised that parents were dropping their mostly teen off in Nebraska because of their recent "Safe Haven" law.
A couple of the kids featured who were "dropped off" had bipolar or mood disorders not otherwise specified. The parents...a mother and a grandmother featured just felt they had no other choice than to drop them off at the hospital and leave.
To back up a min...the safe haven law was apparently designed for infants to be dropped off without fear of the law for abandonment. However, the lawmakers in Nebraska could not decide on an "up to" age so they did not write in an age limit...this is what has caused parents in Nebraska to drop off their troubled children...even folks from surrounding states came to drop off their children.
I was very disappointed with husband's point of view. He suggested if this was 50 yrs ago people would just take "that rebellious child out back and wear them out." He said it's because even spanking a child these days can lead to child abuse accusations that people feel they have no other choice than to "drop off their children anywhere they can or medicate them into submission."
I can't believe after all husband knows about emotional struggles from our sons perspective as well as mine growing up that he thinks regualar spankings would straighten a child out. He's learned very little over the years. He also thinks society is "overmedicated". He said the only time he thinks medicine should be involved is if someone truly is psychotic. He thinks internal pressure and resistance to pain...emotional pain, makes you stronger just like a physical workout. He said it's "all a choice".
Now, I'm not saying these are MY thoughts cause they aren't. I personally think it cruel now to let a child stay in a state of deep emotional pain, turmoil, conflict with no help. I also do NOT think that "wearing a child out" will deliver a positive outcome.
Anyway, just wondered if others saw the 20/20 program last night and what are your thoughts? Any debates in your home about this?
Tammy