So Saturday difficult child 1 started having horrible pains down her side and into her back. I drove her to urgent care to find out what was wrong with her. Her pain was excrutiating. By the time we got to the office, her pain had subsided a bit, but was still there. When the doctor came in she asked difficult child the typical questions. Where pain was located, how long it lasted, when was her last menstrual period, etc. After her questions, the doctor asked for me to step outside while she did an internal exam and urinary analysis since difficult child is a teenager. I stepped outside and waited for her to complete the exam. Finally the doctor came out and asked to speak to me alone. When she pulled me aside, she proceeded to tell me that the exam was normal and she couldn't find anything physically wrong with difficult child. Then she told me that difficult child admitted to her that she was having a lot of stress and anxiety. I asked the doctor to elaborate. She told me that her's and difficult child's conversation was confidencial and she couldn't tell me anything else. She then asked me if difficult child was in any kind of therapy, because she really needed it. I explained that she already sees a therapist. She then told me that she thought difficult child could benefit from some type of yoga or other physical fitness to help relieve some of her worry. After we left the office, I asked difficult child to tell me what she is so anxious about. She finally admitted to me that she is having anxiety over school. I asked her why she has never told me that before, especially when I asked her and she had the chance to tell me then. She just shrugged and gave me the infamous "I don't know" answer. So at least I finally got it out of her. She really does have anxiety and it's all school related. So now I finally have something to work with. She leaves me wondering, however, why she didn't come to me with this information on her own? And why didn't she come clean with her therapist either? Or the school psychiatric? What was it about this doctor, whom she has never seen before in her life, that made her feel like she could open up to her? Am I missing something? I thought that her and I had a fairly close relationship where she could tell me just about anything. Am I wrong for feeling hurt? Sometimes I feel like I just don't do enough to support my kids. Where did I go wrong?