So difficult child has this friend T. They've been friends for a few years although I haven't spent much time around this kid.....er....guy....whatever. Apparently, T is a difficult child in his own right but typical teen at the same time. The last couple of times I was around him, he was with us for a few hours. The last time was actually fun as we watched difficult child mow a friends yard while they were on vacation. We just stood back watching and chatting on what kind of a job difficult child was doing and how he would do when he actually got a job and had to WORK! (T had a job at this point). It was kind of fun and T and I got along but of course.....I'm not his mom so go figure. Anyhoo....evidently for the past I don't know how many months, T has had this girlfriend R. (Probably close to a year at least) I haven't heard too much about the situation because difficult child must think I pick up info by osmosis because he doesn't tell me anything but expects me to know it all. Evidently though, R is a bit controlling of T's life. ALL of it. Who he sees, who he talks to, what he does.....the whole bit. R has a baby. I'm still not sure if it is T's or not but they are acting like he is. At some point, T and his mom had a huge blowup and he moved in with R and her mom. difficult child went with T's mom S once to try and talk T into coming home but it didn't work. T doesn't talk to difficult child much anymore if at all, he lost his job and doesn't really speak to anyone, family included, especially if they aren't R approved. I gather though, that when he does talk to S, it's more of the "well I'm 18 and THIS is what I can do now and what I've done" type of thing. Evidently T and R got married at somepoint recently and are still living at R's mom's place. (Who, by the way, encourages and assists her daughter in controlling this poor kid) Now....I know this kid has issues of his own but I kinda feel sorry for the situation he's in. He brought it on himself yes, but I hate to think of him living like this. What's so bad, you ask? As an example, R apparently named some other guy as the father of the baby even though T claims him as his own. R had to take the baby to get a paternity test done so, I imagine, child support could be set up. She took someone else's kid for the test. So now, T's mom S and difficult child are going over there today to try to talk to T again. I've talked with difficult child about not getting involved in all the drama so we'll see how it goes. Blah. I'm glad I don't know much about the situation.