I just joined this site today. I kept seeing, "difficult child" and not knowing what it meant. Google time! "Gift From God". difficult child.....difficult child.....difficult child..... As I saw this written frequently, I saw how just using that phrase can change impact. difficult child. Even if it changes nothing in my outer circumstances with our "difficult child", it changes my inner state. Reminds me of what a long and winding road it has been -- yet we're still here. Reminds me of the few-and-far-between times when he smiles and his eyes light up -- as do ours, as parents. Reminds me that each of us has an inner battle in some form or another -- some more blatant than others. Reminds me that while they are our difficult child's, we are also their difficult child's. Most of you are accustomed to hearing/saying difficult child as you've been here a while. For me, the newbie, I find it most refreshing and cleansing. A positive impact can be felt quickly. Thank you all for the difficult child gift today!