KFld
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difficult child called me yesterday because he was in town and wanted to come by and say hi. I was at the mall with my sister in-law and he happened to be there also. He was there with 2 old friends of his and I'm a little uneasy about it, but I also feel that he has come far enough to make the right choices.
One of his friends used to live with us for a year or so, until we discovered difficult child's drug use and he went into his first rehab. He kept in contact with this friend on and off for awhile, but hadn't seen him in over 9 months until yesterday. This friend difficult child tells me is clean, but he's pretty much homeless. He never had a good family life, which still bothers me because he was always a nice kid, just needed to be pointed in the right direction by his parents, but never was. It was nice to see him and I asked him where he was living and he said, nowhere really. I gave him the little speech about getting his life together.
The other friend actually joined the National Guard and is shipping off to Fort Knox on Monday. This kid was the first kid my difficult child got into trouble with years ago with a paintball incident and they both got involved with the juvenile court system. He has no mother and his father did nothing for him. He pretty much raised himself. I was glad to hear he was doing something with his life and he looked good.
I guess the friend who used to live with us called him out of the blue and difficult child hooked up with them. I reminded difficult child that he's almost 9 months clean and to be careful who he's hanging with and he told me not to worry about a thing.
I don't really think I have to be worried because I truly believe he knows now exactly what he has to loose and really appreciates what he has gained over the past 9 months. I just know these were his buddies during his time of using. I'm just praying that if the friend who's not going into the National Guard really isn't doing well, that difficult child is smart enough to have spent a day with him, then go back home and move on. I think he will, but of course theres always that little bit of fear seeing him with "the old gang".
My sister inlaw hadn't seen difficult child since Christmas and couldn't get over how good he looked. I know he looks good, but I see him weekly. She was so pleased at how he looked :smile:
One of his friends used to live with us for a year or so, until we discovered difficult child's drug use and he went into his first rehab. He kept in contact with this friend on and off for awhile, but hadn't seen him in over 9 months until yesterday. This friend difficult child tells me is clean, but he's pretty much homeless. He never had a good family life, which still bothers me because he was always a nice kid, just needed to be pointed in the right direction by his parents, but never was. It was nice to see him and I asked him where he was living and he said, nowhere really. I gave him the little speech about getting his life together.
The other friend actually joined the National Guard and is shipping off to Fort Knox on Monday. This kid was the first kid my difficult child got into trouble with years ago with a paintball incident and they both got involved with the juvenile court system. He has no mother and his father did nothing for him. He pretty much raised himself. I was glad to hear he was doing something with his life and he looked good.
I guess the friend who used to live with us called him out of the blue and difficult child hooked up with them. I reminded difficult child that he's almost 9 months clean and to be careful who he's hanging with and he told me not to worry about a thing.
I don't really think I have to be worried because I truly believe he knows now exactly what he has to loose and really appreciates what he has gained over the past 9 months. I just know these were his buddies during his time of using. I'm just praying that if the friend who's not going into the National Guard really isn't doing well, that difficult child is smart enough to have spent a day with him, then go back home and move on. I think he will, but of course theres always that little bit of fear seeing him with "the old gang".
My sister inlaw hadn't seen difficult child since Christmas and couldn't get over how good he looked. I know he looks good, but I see him weekly. She was so pleased at how he looked :smile: