bluebell
Well-Known Member
- in doing the wrong things! After reading the article on detachment and other posts here, I have had a moment of clarity. And here I've been thinking he was incompetent and helpless and would starve or freeze to death without us poking and prodding!
Maybe I'm deluding myself with some 'magical thinking' here, but it seems that since we've cut off the car and the money supply, he's managed to find somewhere to sleep other than home most nights and I guess get himself fed and watered. He doesn't look too terribly bad when he comes home.
Although he did show up at 6am yesterday morning saying he had been in a car accident with a drunk driver (the other vehicle), normally I would have been all over that, trying to convince him that this is why you don't need to be out and about in the middle of the night and see - I told you so - worry worry worry blah blah blah. I'm still not sure he wasn't lying or somehow trying to manipulate me - but I just told him I was glad he was ok and went back to bed. He got him some sleep and a shower and he was off again!!!
Just makes me more comfortable with my decision to get him a restraining order for his 18th birthday in September.
Maybe I'm deluding myself with some 'magical thinking' here, but it seems that since we've cut off the car and the money supply, he's managed to find somewhere to sleep other than home most nights and I guess get himself fed and watered. He doesn't look too terribly bad when he comes home.
Although he did show up at 6am yesterday morning saying he had been in a car accident with a drunk driver (the other vehicle), normally I would have been all over that, trying to convince him that this is why you don't need to be out and about in the middle of the night and see - I told you so - worry worry worry blah blah blah. I'm still not sure he wasn't lying or somehow trying to manipulate me - but I just told him I was glad he was ok and went back to bed. He got him some sleep and a shower and he was off again!!!
Just makes me more comfortable with my decision to get him a restraining order for his 18th birthday in September.