Haven't been here in a while- life has been busy. My difficult child is living with a girlfriend. We know this (we= me and easy child) based on information my daughter found out on FB. I don't 'stalk' (I'm blocked anyway) but like to keep my finger on the pulse. Anyway, Saturday morning before 8 a.m. my phone is ringing- it's difficult child. I ignore the call, go back to sleep. About 20 minutes later, a text. Evidently, since he's not getting any money from me, he's started trying to outreach his 'other' family- on his father's side. The father who, if you recall, has not EVER done anything to assist in raising this child. Not once. But difficult child is desperate. So the text says his "father" wants my number and is that ok? See, his father is a liar and schemer too- but karma has gotten him pretty good and he's wanting to confirm some info. I haven't talked with him in years. You know what they say, you can't [email protected]#$% a [email protected]#$%er. He called, I told him a high level overview. Basically that amounts to "I'm done". I learned that at times his "father" has offered to help difficult child get his GED and enroll in the technical college, to no avail. I didn't tell him that difficult child had stolen from me, my mother, my daughter- because honestly? There's a twinge of not wanting to 'out' him and wanting his other parent to step up and TRY something. Right? Wrong? I don't want difficult child to go over there and steal from his paternal grandmother. (heh, so his "father" has separated from his wife and guess where he lives? With his mother). It's almost surreal- how alike they are considering the non-involvement. Texting continued that he was working at some landscape place, needs money to pay rent (but you are working? and per FB the girlfriend seems to be content 'taking care of him') and that same on and on about how no one helps him. Amazingly......I'm over this. I really am. My stomach does not turn when I see a missed call from him. I am not nauseous when I get a text. I'm not worried or sad when I don't hear from him. It almost seems cold and unloving. I love him. I don't like him.