Like I need difficult child to be armed with any sort of gun!!
This came up on Friday night. All his friends have them (I doubt that). He's the only one who doesn't have one. He'll pay for it. It's not fair. I told him that I don't like them because I don't think they are safe. He twists everything I say and he says that "they're only unsafe in the in the hands of mentally ill douche bags." Then all of a sudden he looks at me and starts screaming that I said he's mentally ill and that I'm a "useless piece of sh**" because I said he was mentally ill, which I never said. Then he was like a pit bull, refusing to let go of the issue because I said no and did not consult husband about it and that his dad will let him have it. So, I finally said that he could ask his father about it, but that if dad said no then that was the end of the conversation. I didn't want to hear any more nonsense about it.
Then he calms down and said he was sorry for calling me nasty names, and while I accepted his apology I also told him that I was really very angry with him. He then told me that I had to ask his father if he could have a BB gun. I said no. He wants a BB gun. He needs to be the one to ask his father about it. He started all over again. That's not fair. "You know that I'm afraid of dad. I shouldn't have to ask him about this." I held my ground and remained calm and quiet and told him that this was his request; not mine. He wants it. He asks. All of a sudden difficult child changed his mind and said that he would not ask husband for it and that he would "wait a few years" before asking for one. And he said that I was not to bring up the subject with his dad.
I actually did mention it to husband, whose response to me was, "like that's ever going to happen."
At least husband and I are on the same page about something!
This came up on Friday night. All his friends have them (I doubt that). He's the only one who doesn't have one. He'll pay for it. It's not fair. I told him that I don't like them because I don't think they are safe. He twists everything I say and he says that "they're only unsafe in the in the hands of mentally ill douche bags." Then all of a sudden he looks at me and starts screaming that I said he's mentally ill and that I'm a "useless piece of sh**" because I said he was mentally ill, which I never said. Then he was like a pit bull, refusing to let go of the issue because I said no and did not consult husband about it and that his dad will let him have it. So, I finally said that he could ask his father about it, but that if dad said no then that was the end of the conversation. I didn't want to hear any more nonsense about it.
Then he calms down and said he was sorry for calling me nasty names, and while I accepted his apology I also told him that I was really very angry with him. He then told me that I had to ask his father if he could have a BB gun. I said no. He wants a BB gun. He needs to be the one to ask his father about it. He started all over again. That's not fair. "You know that I'm afraid of dad. I shouldn't have to ask him about this." I held my ground and remained calm and quiet and told him that this was his request; not mine. He wants it. He asks. All of a sudden difficult child changed his mind and said that he would not ask husband for it and that he would "wait a few years" before asking for one. And he said that I was not to bring up the subject with his dad.
I actually did mention it to husband, whose response to me was, "like that's ever going to happen."
At least husband and I are on the same page about something!