difficult child just called with the new therapist on a conference call. We were having a nice conversation and then he asked if we were still going up for his birthday and I said yes. He wanted to know if we were going to spend the night and see him both days or just the one day and come home. I told him that the plans are still up in the air because of money (still no job) and it depends on my brother and sister in law. difficult child asked why and I told him that my sister in law is going to go stay with my brother for a while to drive him because he got a DWI and will probably loose his license for a month. They had been talking that maybe she could go for a while then my husband go drive him around for a while because my hubby is disabled and can not work. That way she can come home and work. I did not want to tell difficult child all of this NEW information in front of this total stranger.Well apparently difficult child made a face when I said that when we go up that might be the half way mark to switch out my hubby for my sister in law. The therapist got hateful and said that he is only allowed to see immediate family. I said I know that BUT we were told that by the time we go he will have his phase and he can see anybody we take. She then made the comment that why would I take somebody up there to see him if he doesn't want us to. I told her that they have done a lot for difficult child, at that time difficult child made the comment to her that his face was not about my brother going it was more about how his dad was going to miss his birthday but meet them halfway to drive my brother. I told him NO dad is going to be there to see you. She then hatefully said to me well why don't you tell me what he has done. At this point I was fuming. She knows nothing about us and as you all know difficult child has a wild imagination. I tried to explain to her that they went with us to court more than once and went with us to plead to the board to give difficult child an opportunity to come home and prove what he had learned in the facility VS jail time. The thing is that when difficult child is doing good and my brother is doing good (my sister in law says he is undiagnosed bipolar) they have a great relationship --difficult child respects him --BUT when they are doing bad well you can imagine two bipolar off medications. wow huh but thats what we have so we deal with it as best we can. I understand that she is trying to understand the family dynamics but shouldn't you listen to both sides of the story before you come to a conclusion. AND it is not her place to make judgments but to help difficult child learn how to cope better. Everybody around him isn't going to change for him. UGH!! I was so upset by the time I got off the phone. She said that now she wants to request that we do video phone conferences so that we can she difficult child's reactions to the things that we say. Maybe that is good then we can call him on some of the stuff that he is telling them too. We will be talking and then all of a sudden they are talking amongst themselves but we can understand what is being said. I promised difficult child that I would be there for his birthday but now we have other things on our plate too that we can't tell him about. We still have not told him about a lot of things so as not to upset him and complicate his treatment. This is the thing --my brother is living out of state for this new job but my sister in law and nephew are here and they took in my other sisters son. Well they have two houses because they by -restore and sell them. They bought one 3 years ago that they moved into--rented out the other but now with the economy it is better to rent the bigger house and move back to the old house they were renting. The renters trashed the house. They are going to have to pull up all the carpets -rebuild walls-all new cabinets -paint you name it. The new house rented and they had no where to go so the three of them are living with us. Which means that when she goes to drive my brother around I will be "babysitting" two seniors in high school. Like I don't have enough on my plate. You do what you have to for family. Just bugged that this lady it making it an issue that they WANT to see difficult child too and that difficult child makes comments that he wishes someone else was able to see him. Other than being at court nobody has seem him in a eight months. He hasn't seen his sister and brother or grandmother in about 3 years since my mother can not travel. Any ideas how to make this new therapist catch on sooner than the others---too late. Good thing is that he is still holding it together. He has been working and has about six hundred dollars. I am sure that it is burning a hole in his pocket!