So husband, easy child and I went to Florida for Christmas, as planned. For the most part we had a great time. It was fun, peaceful and mostly difficult child free. It took 3 days to drive there with the trailer and on the third day I get a text from difficult child asking for the code for the lock to the house. I immediately call him to ask why he needs the code. "Oh, I just need to get some t-shirts from the house and then I'll be on my way. " Red sirens are going off in my head. I call my parents to go over to the house immediately (thankfully they only live 5 minute away) and tell difficult child to wait and they will let him in. "Oh, nevermind difficult child says, Granny & Poppy (husband's parents live in an apartment attached to our house) forgot to lock their door when they went out so I'll just go in through their place." I said no, wait for my parents to arrive. He called my parents and told them I said not to bother showing up. In the meantime he has lied to both husband and myself that he is alone and just coming to get some clothes. My parents show up and difficult child is livid. He is in his room, swearing, screaming, carrying on. I'm on the phone with my mom and difficult child will not speak to me and refuses to leave the house. He has his girlfriend hidden in the house and we all know it, tell him we're not mad but he needs to leave. More swearing, screaming etc.. So I said tell him he has 10 minutes to get himself together and get out and if he doesn't then call the police. Ugh. So, I guess his girlfriend convinced him that they should listen and they left. He spent many nights mooching at my parents place. They let him stay there and picked him up and drove him around whenever he felt like it. I don't agree with that but I wasn't home. difficult child barely communicated with me while we were away and when he did he was short with me and rude. And apparently he got a tattoo while we were away. I'm kind of mad about this because I believe he used the money we gave him for rent (when he supposedly had found an apartment) to pay for part of the tattoo. He hasn't been working. Wouldn't be surprised if they fired him. But he bought plenty of gifts for his girlfriend for Christmas, the tattoo and was out at the movies on the night we got home from our trip. When we got back I told him I was disappointed about the tattoo but that he has the right to make his own decisions (even though whoever tattoo'd him did it illegally because he's only 16 and didn't have parental consent) even if I don't agree with them. I also told him that breaking into my home with his girlfriend was disrespectful and that I was not happy about it. So, now that I've confronted him he is no longer speaking to me. That's ok, I'll get a few days peace, I guess.