Another development:
Yep. I was mostly angry that the idea hadn't been run by me first - and that I had to hear from difficult child how she was getting this new account.
Oh really???
Then, after I posted here...I received an email from the BA. She told me that difficult child expressed wanting to be in charge of her own money instead of having to go through her parents. So voila! BA found this account where difficult child wouldn't need her parents. Isn't it wonderful?
I responded that it was NOT wonderful. We had difficult child set up with an account just fine, thank you very much. We did not sign her up for a bank account to be "control freaks" - but rather to help teach difficult child responsibility with money AND ensure that difficult child could not access large sums of cash without our permission (pretty important, considering difficult child's history of taking off...)
BA originally responded with an apology - saying that she only had the best of intentions...
The she sent ANOTHER email, saying that what difficult child really wanted was to show us how responsible she could be. And, if after a few months, we were not happy with the results - we could then close this independant account and require difficult child to go back to using a custodial account.
Ummmm....in what universe does this woman:
a) believe difficult child's bs about showing us how "responsible" she is by going against what we set up
b) not understand and respect me when I clearly say "NO"
c) think we would have the power to close an account to which we had no access
d)think that if the worst-case scenario happened (difficult child used the money to skip town), that we'd be OK with "Oh well, that didn't work....I guess we'll go back to the custodial arrangement now."
????
Yep. I was mostly angry that the idea hadn't been run by me first - and that I had to hear from difficult child how she was getting this new account.
Oh really???
Then, after I posted here...I received an email from the BA. She told me that difficult child expressed wanting to be in charge of her own money instead of having to go through her parents. So voila! BA found this account where difficult child wouldn't need her parents. Isn't it wonderful?
I responded that it was NOT wonderful. We had difficult child set up with an account just fine, thank you very much. We did not sign her up for a bank account to be "control freaks" - but rather to help teach difficult child responsibility with money AND ensure that difficult child could not access large sums of cash without our permission (pretty important, considering difficult child's history of taking off...)
BA originally responded with an apology - saying that she only had the best of intentions...
The she sent ANOTHER email, saying that what difficult child really wanted was to show us how responsible she could be. And, if after a few months, we were not happy with the results - we could then close this independant account and require difficult child to go back to using a custodial account.
Ummmm....in what universe does this woman:
a) believe difficult child's bs about showing us how "responsible" she is by going against what we set up
b) not understand and respect me when I clearly say "NO"
c) think we would have the power to close an account to which we had no access
d)think that if the worst-case scenario happened (difficult child used the money to skip town), that we'd be OK with "Oh well, that didn't work....I guess we'll go back to the custodial arrangement now."
????