I thought it would be good, someone for difficult child to talk to. he liked him. He told difficult child he wouldn't reveal their conversations to me and he was safe to talk. Well he did. he told me difficult child said he hated me. First visit therapist had me sign release forms to talk to SW at school for a better "insight" on difficult child. Well He spoke to me privately last visit. Said when difficult child is out of control...he has no control. That school should not punish him when he has no control. Just found out he called SW again. this time told her that difficult child needs to be held responsible for all his actions. And again tells difficult child different story. That will go over real big in the upcoming IEP. Especially when I truely believe that the teachers / staff deliberately do things to set him off, then punish him. Yes there are many situations that difficult child causes on his own, but I have personally witnessed situations that are just not acceptable. It would set a easy child off, let alone a difficult child. Don't understand. Just am lost. He seemed to mature so much over last summer. Honor roll second quarter. Liked school, had lots of friends, wouldn't miss a day for anything. HOW can that go complete 360?? All I can think of is I know he doesn't handle change well. i changed jobs the last week of second quarter. Which meant I am home more. I see him after school, can check Homework, have dinner. See sporting events. (also means less travel, more money)He WANTED me to take this job. He SAID he wanted me home. Now I am and things are the worst they have ever been. Worse than the abusive relationship I was in when easy child was a baby.