Hi, My son was diagnosed with ADHD in the beginning of Dec, and we're exploring our options. I truly believe that he has ODD as well, but it hasn't been diagnosed. He's had previous bouts of soiling, and it's now re-occurring. He just turned 8, and over time, his performance in school has deteriorated, and his behavior at home has followed suit. He has a lot of trouble paying attention in class, which causes his teacher to have to spend extra time with him. In the past when my husband and I have tried to discuss it with him, he would break down in tears. His teacher reported to us, and he admitted as well, that he often speaks out during class and causes disruptions, trying to be funny. Unfortunately, he doesn't have a lot of friends right now. At home, we've noticed a severe change in his behavior. We decided not to sign him up for baseball this spring because of this. He simply acts like he doesn't care, and said that he hates everyone who was on his team last year anyway. Tonight, we had a bad episode with him and I nearly broke down in tears. luckily, my husband calmed the situation down somewhat, but I still feel like the situation is out of control. When he was five, he started to have bowel movements in his pants. After a few weeks, we were able to get him back to using the toilet. He had a relapse at seven, but it was short and he had no more problems. When school let out for Christmas break, he started to do again. At first he said that they were accidents, but two days before Christmas, he was playing in the family room with his legos and simply stopped what he was doing, squatted and had a full bowel movement in his pants right in front of his father and I. Since then, he's made no effort to stop. I tried to set aside time for him to use the toilet after breakfast, lunch and dinner, but with no success. The first time I made him sit, he willfully shook his head and told me he didn't have to go. As soon as I let him up, he pulled his underwear back on and soiled while he was standing next to the toilet! After cleanup I put him in time out for what was supposed to be 15 minutes, but he threw a tantrum and screamed at the top of his lungs, so it turned into a 10 minute cry and 10 minutes of him begging me to let him come out. I don't know what to do anymore. His appointment with the pediatrician isn't until January 17th. We're dreading the wait, and I'm terrified that he'll act out at school, or even worse, that he'll soil. I pray that he understands that the other kids will ridicule him, but I'm worried that he doesn't even care. I've spoken with my husband about keeping him home, but he feels like that's a bad idea and will only reinforce the behavioral issues. I'm not really sure what I'm asking for. Mainly support, I guess, or some advice if anyone has it to give. He starts school again on Tuesday, and I have a feeling of dread that I can't even describe.