Well, difficult child 1 has been argueing, cutting up clothes, cutting up toys, aggressive to difficult child 2, bossy, ignoring us (and admitting to it). (We've got our siccors put up high. To be cutting up stuff he has to sneak them from the top of the fridge, cut it up, and sneak it back.) He has also started having these depressive spots. He'll hit himself saying he is a bad, stupid, little boy and he doesn't want to live. They never last long. They happen about twice a week. psychiatrist thinks it might be a reaction to the Lamictal, so we're weaning him off of it. Tonight was his first night without any. He will go a week and then start Depakote. If he is still having the depressive spots this week I'm going to call psychiatrist. Maybe its just him growing up bipolar and not conected with medications? At least the Metadate is working. I (and the school) can tell a big difference without it. The school did testing on difficult child 1 and psychiatrist was concerned about the 34 point split between the verbal and performance, so we got him an appointment with a neuropsychologist. in Aug. What can I expect at this appointment? I know it'll be long. difficult child 2 starts "learning box" soon. That is what the EI here call ABA. I'm still being taught about it. After this (and easy child learns to walk - they don't have sib care for a non-walker) difficult child 2 can go to a social skills class 2 times a week where they'll do learning box and floor time (a child led play/teaching) and a snack. A speach therapist now comes out about twice a month and she is trying to get us to do signs for more specific things. The problem is that I don't know sign language and she is having to teach me. I think the speach therapist is helping. The jury is still out on the other stuff. I'm willing to go along and give it some time. difficult child 2 loves the child directed play/teaching. EI has started to send someone out to our house once a week to help out. I'm not sure how this is going to be a help, but our family is stressed and does need help. I think we're going to set family goals and work on having fun as a family. There is an activiety 3 times a month where they always feed us dinner. At least I won't have to cook. About husband, the seperation of bank accounts is complete as of last week. I now have complete control of paying bills. The only way he can undermine me is to not let me put his paycheck in the account. We have a set amount he gets per paycheck for what ever he wants. It is in our old joint account. He is already overdrawn. AND IT IS NOT AFFECTING THE BILLS!!!!! I'm glad our system works. I'm sad it only took him 1 week to lose control of his money. easy child is almost walking. Sorry this is long.