pepperidge
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Does anyone have any ideas for dealing with difficult child 2 who gets so bent out shape when he doesn't get what he wants. Friends aren't available to come over, he wants something now, somebody didn't get something at the store, he wants to do something, something doesn't go his way, he gets bummed out --sulks, angry no rages, though some less than nice language. Takes it out on us the parents. Out of proportion and a pain to live with.
He is not in the most rational place, he says angry things he isn't even totally aware of or in control of, just nasty. We his parents get it the worst but we see it with others too. We don't think punishment is the answer, as this is one of those lagging skills Ross Greene's talks about. but we are also not willing to tolerate too much abuse either. It is difficult to reason with him when he is in a foul mood. Wwat I do more often than not is just absent myself, stop talking , go away, leave him alone. Eventually it passes. often will be in this state for a better part of day unless something major good comes along.
This capacity to emotionally regulate is such an important thing. Anyone had a plan for dealing with this? We've never found therapists to be particularly helpful.
He is not in the most rational place, he says angry things he isn't even totally aware of or in control of, just nasty. We his parents get it the worst but we see it with others too. We don't think punishment is the answer, as this is one of those lagging skills Ross Greene's talks about. but we are also not willing to tolerate too much abuse either. It is difficult to reason with him when he is in a foul mood. Wwat I do more often than not is just absent myself, stop talking , go away, leave him alone. Eventually it passes. often will be in this state for a better part of day unless something major good comes along.
This capacity to emotionally regulate is such an important thing. Anyone had a plan for dealing with this? We've never found therapists to be particularly helpful.