Hi. I am very upset right now and just want to say that I am grateful to have found this site because for the first time I don't feel like I am the only one experiencing this torture. I have been dealing with my 23 year old son's destructive, disrespectful, dishonest behaviors for about 7 years now and the only support resources I've ever found have never been relevant to me because they were all drug use/prison focused (the primary issue is not the person's deviant? personality and the person is actually a nice person with an addiction problem or lacks intelligence/opportunity). As many others, my son could have had it all.. he's brilliant, handsome and charming. Its been a long, destructive path from prestigious college to being a two time felon and losing the respect and friendship of all who ever loved him. He holds onto a lie about anything even when the evidence is right in front of us. He blames everyone and everything but himself for everything. He recounts a childhood full of abuse that never happened. He is lazy, immature, enamored by the drug life, is a chameleon, a thief, a liar, acts entitled and can be the meanest, cunning manipulator - I call him a peacock, as he walks around with a narcissistic over-inflated ego like he is invincible. I've always tried and never have given up but this is now making me sick and hurting my family too much. I've lost hope for now (always thought it was the drugs but now see its him) so will be letting go. I called his PO tonight to say he can not live here anymore. I'm scared but know I am enabling and he will never change if he doesn't feel the pain of consequence. I have to go to bed now because I have been crying so hard I cant open my eyes anymore but I just wanted to say hi and share a little bit to become part of the community. I wish there were live meetings but I will learn to type my thoughts and Im really glad to have found you all.