Ethics mtg....I'm overwhelmed

Discussion in 'The Watercooler' started by timer lady, Jan 7, 2009.

  1. timer lady

    timer lady Queen of Hearts

    There is an ethics mtg this afternoon regarding husband's last wishes & furthering treatment plan.

    I'm once again, going to make known what husband would & wouldn't want in terms of being kept alive & under what circumstances. We discussed it in great detail when my mother died 2 years ago (Monday was the anniversary of her passing).

    I've discussed this with husband's parents & his younger sister & all trust me to make husband's wishes known. The DNR remains - I'm asking now for DNI. Let his body decide when/if it will survive.

    husband woke for a bit yesterday while his sister visited & said a few words. The first in almost 3 weeks.

    I am asking that you all stand beside me this afternoon while I tell all the MDs, the SW, the chaplain, the non religious person & whoever is else happens to show up from husband's treatment team what husband's wishes were & hope it is heard. This is the hardest mtg of my life - I'm trying to protect what husband would want & my family.
  2. hearts and roses

    hearts and roses Mind Reader

    {{{Linda}}} Sending you lots of prayers, strength and support - will be standing with you at the meeting. Hugs~
  3. gcvmom

    gcvmom Here we go again!

    I will be standing there by you, with my arm firmly around you in support as you go through this. Many, many hugs for you for having the strength and courage to be a warrior wife, no matter how much this hurts.
  4. donna723

    donna723 Well-Known Member

    I'll be there too Linda, right beside you.

  5. klmno

    klmno Active Member

    You have 100% of my support and are in my thoughts daily. I'm so glad that his family is supporting you through this as well. I'm just sorry that you have to go through it and be the strong one for everyone else, too.
  6. SearchingForRainbows

    SearchingForRainbows Active Member


    I'm standing right beside you and praying as hard as I can that everyone at the meeting listens and does exactly what you tell them your husband would want them to do under these circumstances.

    Sending you lots of strength to get you through this... As always praying for you and your family... WFEN
  7. SRL

    SRL Active Member

    We're here for you Linda, as always. I'm praying that you will be able to communicate his wishes clearly and that you will be heard.
  8. Star*

    Star* call 911


    I'm behind you and beside you - wherever you need me to be. HUGE hugs.

  9. totoro

    totoro Mom? What's a GFG?

    I will help you stand and support you for as long as you need.
    Stay strong.
    This to shall pass...
  10. Big Bad Kitty

    Big Bad Kitty lolcat

    Behind, beside, in front of...I'm with you giving all the love, support, and prayers you need.
  11. busywend

    busywend Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Sitting on your shoulder to give you stength!!!!!
  12. Lothlorien

    Lothlorien Active Member Staff Member

    I know that you will have the strength to get through this. You've had a lot of practice with meetings about the tweedles. You are stronger than you realize, Linda. Your body might not be, but your mind certainly is. I will still say a prayer and keep you in my heart today.
  13. WhymeMom?

    WhymeMom? No real answers to life..

    Sending strength..... we are with you.................
  14. Nomad

    Nomad Guest

    Your thoughts seem solid to me, even under very difficult circumstances.
    I am so sorry you are going through such difficulties.
    My thoughts and prayers are with you...standing by you as you requested.
  15. crazymama30

    crazymama30 Active Member

    Standing with you sharing quiet strength. DNI and DNR sound quite reasonable. I hope all goes well.
  16. trinityroyal

    trinityroyal Well-Known Member

    Standing beside and behind you, sending strength and support, and saying prayers.
    You are an incredibly strong woman Linda, and you will get through this.
  17. dreamer

    dreamer New Member

    I'm sorry you have to go thru this. I had to w first husband...i don't envy you. its hard. my prayers with you.
  18. I am there with you every step of the way too. I know how hard it is for you. I was asked those questions about my husband before he died, however, before I could even answer he coded and they were not able to bring him back.

    Sending many hugs to you and offering support and strength.

  19. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    Absolutely, Linda. You are a loving, compassionate, intelligent person. I only hope I have someone like you at my side when the time comes.
    I hope that your husband remains pain free and comfortable.
  20. mstang67chic

    mstang67chic Going Green

    Hugs Linda. We're all behind you with our arms under yours, holding you up and giving you a solid wall of support to lean back on. I wasn't sure which way they were leaning from you post but hopefully the docs and other committee members listen and go with your (husband's) wishes.